Dear Adrianne:

I understand where you’re coming from. The holiday season can be incredibly stressful, especially when past experiences have left a negative impact. It’s tough when the memories associated with Christmas are more about conflict and discomfort than joy and togetherness.

It’s perfectly okay to want peace of mind and to prioritize your well-being. The pressure to be with others and the anxiety of not having plans can be overwhelming. It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid, and you have the right to make choices that are best for you.

Spending Christmas alone last year brought you relief. It might be worth considering why: was it the quiet? The lack of pressure? The freedom to do what you wanted? Understanding this can help you make a decision that aligns with your needs.

Communicating with your boyfriend about your feelings might also help. Let him know that while you appreciate his concern, you need to prioritize your mental health. Maybe you can find a compromise, like spending part of the day together and then having some alone time.

You’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people find the holidays challenging for various reasons. It’s okay to set boundaries and create new traditions that bring you comfort and joy.

Wishing you peace and a stress-free holiday season. Take care of yourself.

anita

Dear ADrianne:
You are welcome. IF isolating is what you need to do during any part of CHristmas, for your mental health then isolating is a good idea!

I wish you a no pressure, quiet, free to do as you wish Christmas and thank you for your wishes for me.

Anita