Hi Everyone

I was abandoned in many ways.

“My biological mother would leave us home alone at a very young age. Not even allowed to eat. Not allowed to use the TV for more than 1 hour a week. I had to enforce all of her rules, because she would punish us if we broke them when she was away. My brother would hit me when I didn’t let him do what he wanted. We would wonder when she would return, if at all.”

This is clearly illegal and neglect. It isn’t fair for children to experience all of these hardships. How irresponsible and uncaring do you have to be? Come on kids, let’s get out of here. I’ll take care of you, you must be scared and hungry.

“Whilst in the house, she would avoid us until time to punish us. Sleeping through the day. When she awoke, she would avoid being present by drinking.”

Mother of the year. Trying to achieve some kind of world record. Too much effort to be a decent human being. Don’t worry, I won’t let her hurt you anymore and I’m here for anything at all you could possibly need. Playing, talking, fun, food, hugs. The essentials.

“I silently cried myself to sleep every night alone. I had to be quiet, because she would beat me when she heard me cry.”

Oh believe me, I’m intimately familiar with that one and I have some choice words about that. When you torture kids, by hitting them when they cry, any crying becomes massively traumatic. No one should have to suffer like that. How dare you lay a hand on either of them! You should be ashamed of yourself. Picking on kids because you’re a coward! You are safe now. No one is going to hurt you anymore. I promise. ❤️

“She sent us away to stay with people from the church as much as she could. Fortunately, they were kind people. It was nice helping them with their farms. I didn’t mind helping.”

Whoop de doo! Letting other people take care of her children and pawning them off as free labour. You don’t need to do anything to be worth taking care of. You deserve to be happy. Do you need anything? What can I do to help you heal?

“My adoptive mother would go in moods for a couple of weeks at a time and either yell or ignore everyone in the house, then go back to normal and pretend it didn’t happen.”

This is emotional abuse and stonewalling. It’s not okay. No one should pretend that it is. If you weren’t capable of taking in a child you should have said no. Instead of saddling me with all of your issues because you wanted to feel like a saviour and that I owed you for life. I have more than paid back that debt. I’m here for you sweetie. You’re never going to be alone again. I love you and you deserve to have someone there for you. I’m not going to let people treat you badly. I’m going to protect you. You matter way more than you know. Just as much as everyone else. It is okay to have needs. Everyone does and everyone deserves to be treat with kindness and respect. ❤️

Hi Thomas

Thanks so much! You remind me of a good friend. ❤️ Yes, things are much better for me now. 😊

Hi Everyone

My earliest memory of this kind of thing would be when I was around 4. My biological mother was asleep most of the time even then.

My younger brother was crying because he was hungry. I was in charge of looking after him.

I was afraid that she would wake up. We weren’t supposed to eat without permission. He kept begging and would not be quiet, even though I asked him to. He was so hungry. I was too.

It would be bad if we woke her up. I got a stool and a pan and heat up a tin of beans on the stove. Maybe if I was quiet she wouldn’t notice? I made toast as well and we both ate.

You! Get up! Why are you leaving a four year old in charge of a three year old? Do you not care what happens to them? They could both have gotten hurt. What if they were burned? Toddlers have very thin skin. They could have been seriously hurt. How could you not feed your precious babies? What is wrong with you? You are sick and need help! I cannot believe that anyone could be so irresponsible.

Look kids, do you want lots of yummy food to eat? As much as you can eat whenever you want. And you don’t need to fetch it. And you don’t need to worry about looking after your brother. You can play and even make noise. You don’t have to worry anymore. I’m going to take care of you and keep you safe.

You did such a good job taking care of your brother, you’re a good helper. You don’t need to help anymore. You can just be you. Focus on being a kid for a change. Relax, have fun, make mistakes. That is what you should be doing. ❤️

I want to go home.

You’re safe now. This is your home. You don’t have to be scared and alone anymore. I’m here for you. ❤️

Hi Tee

I really appreciate your message. Apologies, I just can’t concentrate on it right now. ❤️

Thanks so much for your kindness, sorry my head was all over the place yesterday. You are much appreciated! ❤️