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September 1, 2025 at 9:31 am #449152
James123ParticipantAs pure being, as nothing at all still, here you are with a body, fingers moving, words flowing, and we are having this conversation. Out of emptiness, life appears: breathing, speaking, writing, listening.
It’s the greatest wonder. That the vast silence of awareness takes form as a human body, and yet never stops being silence. The body plays, the mind talks, and still you remain untouched as the background.
The most ordinary act, even chatting right now becomes extraordinary when seen from being itself.
The heart of it is:
When Consciousness see that everything, body, mind, thoughts, emotions, even “others” all rise within the same awareness / consciousness, separation dissolves. What else could remain but love?
Love is not a choice, not an effort.
It is the natural fragrance of being, when there is no “me” and “you.”
The ocean cannot help but embrace its own waves.
That’s why love is inevitable: because awareness sees itself everywhere, wearing countless faces, speaking in countless voices and still, it is one.
As Rumi said: “Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”
The body is but a passing guest, fragile and brief. When it fades, even the love tied to flesh and form must vanish. Yet while we breathe, let us not merely love. Let us become love, and live within love. Only then are we fulfilled. Only then do we taste the sweetness of truly living.
I love you all.
With Love,
September 1, 2025 at 10:05 am #449153
anitaParticipantDear James:
A sense of peace came over me as I read your invitation to become love. And I find myself asking: what is love, truly? Not just in poetry, but in practice.
For me, it means to do-no-harm: no abusive behaviors toward others, but also allowing no harm to be done to me, as best I can. That means being selective and discerning about whom I choose to interact with, and how. It’s a learning experience for me.
When you say “live within love,” what does that look like for you?
🤍 Anita
September 1, 2025 at 10:31 am #449154James123ParticipantDear Ms. Anita,
For me, love is the complete acceptance of everything and anything exactly as it is.
The essence of true love: unconditional, arising from awareness itself, not bound by preferences, judgments, or desires. Love is simply the Consciousness reflecting as acceptance.
With love,
September 1, 2025 at 10:48 am #449156anitaParticipantDear James123:
Thank you for your answer. I want to love more in this way of radical acceptance, a way that not bound by preferences, judgments or desires, like you said. But how to accept really bad people?
Anita
September 1, 2025 at 11:40 am #449157James123ParticipantI see bad people like babies. They came into this world completely pure, like clean water, innocent and untouched. Everything they became—their personality, their habits, their ways of thinking—was shaped by their environment, family, society, and life circumstances. None of the “bad” things they do are truly their fault, because they are a product of what surrounded them, how they were raised, and what they experienced.
In a way, they are like a river shaped by the stones and soil it flows over. The person I see now is just the result of everything around them, not something they consciously chose in the beginning. Understanding this doesn’t mean I approve of harmful behavior, but it allows me to look at them without hatred or judgment. I can see the human behind the actions, the innocent child that once existed, and the suffering and conditioning that led them to be this way.
September 1, 2025 at 11:50 am #449158anitaParticipantOnce again, James123: I am in awe at a flawless answer. Thank you!
Anita
September 1, 2025 at 11:59 am #449159James123ParticipantDear Ms. Anita,
You are most welcome. ❤️
Love is the highest and purest service we can offer to humanity. It’s not about recognition, reward, or doing things for show—it’s about giving, understanding, and being fully present for others. When we act from love, every small gesture, every word, every act of kindness becomes meaningful. Helping others with love is not just about changing their lives, it transforms us as well.
Love sees beyond faults, beyond appearances, beyond judgment. It connects us to the essence of people, to their struggles, their joys, their humanity. When we serve from love, we serve without expectation, without ego, without thinking “I am doing something great.” The act itself becomes the gift, and the impact spreads silently, like a ripple in water.
In this way, love is not just an emotion—it is the truest service we can offer to the world.
With love and peace,
Best Regards,
September 1, 2025 at 12:01 pm #449160anitaParticipantExcept perhaps for these parts of your answer (upon 2nd reading):”None of the “bad” things they do..”- bad things are really bad, why the ” ” around bad?
and “The person I see now is just the result of everything around them”- no such thing as Personal Choice…?
September 1, 2025 at 12:05 pm #449161anitaParticipantDear James123:
Double posting- I submitted the above before I became aware of your most recent post. I will read and contemplate it later, and if you’re willing to answer my post before this one, I will be grateful. My goal is to learn from you.
Anita
September 1, 2025 at 12:18 pm #449162James123ParticipantDear Ms. Anita,
Hell and heaven are not distant places waiting for us after death. They exist here, within the very moments of our lives. When the body and mind are filled with judgment, separation, and endless thinking, that is hell. But when the heart holds love—pure, selfless, and without expectation—that is heaven. Heaven and hell are not around us; they are the landscapes of our own consciousness.
This might sound a little heavy, but after physical death, we simply return to where we came from—which is directly nothing. There is no destination, no reward, no punishment. Just the silence and emptiness from which everything arose.
September 1, 2025 at 12:42 pm #449164anitaParticipantThank you for engaging with me. I value your input and your way with words, so simple and direct. I would like to reply further later.
September 1, 2025 at 1:06 pm #449165
AlessaParticipantHi James
I feel like our physical bodies communicate love more easily than words.
Online, without a camera. It is harder to build trust.
Hearing a soft voice, seeing a caring look, feeling a comforting touch. These things do a lot to comfort people.
Love itself, oxytocin being triggered by skin to skin contact.
It is remarkable the things that it can do. Underdeveloped newborns need it to survive. When a child has a fever, it helps to regulate their temperature. It helps to promote relaxation and sleep.
I feel like it takes a lot more effort to communicate love, purely in words. I’m not so good at expressing myself because of culture. Stiff upper lip and all that. 😂
Interestingly, I read a study about murderers. Within the study they all had severe childhood trauma as well as co-occurring with either brain damage or autism.
Also, I read another study about people who fight as children. Their brains can become permanently damaged.
Not to mention, physical abuse itself can cause brain damage and dementia.
❤️❤️❤️
September 1, 2025 at 5:59 pm #449170anitaParticipantDear James123:
“When the body and mind are filled with judgment, separation, and endless thinking, that is hell. But when the heart holds love—pure, selfless, and without expectation—that is heaven.”-
It’s quite recently that my thinking has been evolving from black-and-white/ all-or-nothing/ binary thinking ===> shades of grey, color, nuance, context, different angles from which to view a complex situation.
Trying to understand the sentence I quoted above using binary thinking, I would have thought that you are suggesting that it’s possible for (an evolved) human being to entertain no judgmental thoughts and to love selflessly all the time, forever more (which would have made me feel very inadequate, ha-ha).
To soften judgment in most circumstances and to redirect judgment to empathy, again and again- that’s possible. To find relief from overthinking, that “endless thinking” you mentioned, which I personally know too well- that’s HEAVENLY.
I said it before, you have a lot to offer people: Love and Clarity.
💖 🙏 Anita
September 1, 2025 at 9:10 pm #449173anitaParticipant“Love is not a choice, not an effort. It is the natural fragrance of being, when there is no ‘me’ and ‘you.’”-
Brilliant, James123.
“the natural fragrance”- what a unique way of saying things.
Anita
September 2, 2025 at 6:09 am #449177
silvery blueParticipantI like the four elements of true love (Four Immesurable Minds) in Buddhism.
Maitri
“When you love someone, you offer your friendship… And friendship does not deprive him or her of his or her freedom… When you love, you maintain your whole freedom and you help maintain the freedom of the person you love… ‘By loving you I retain my freedom, and by loving you I respect your freedom’… You spend your time with him or her with mindfulness and you discover everyday his (or her) needs, difficulties, obstacles and deep aspirations…”Karuna
“Karuna means the capacity to understand the suffering, and help remove it, transform it. The person you love has suffering in him or in her. You should be able to identify that suffering, that difficulty, and try to help to remove it. … In true love, you don’t have to suffer (with your beloved). You have to understand only. And your capacity of understanding helps the other person not to suffer anymore. … Your presence only helps the person to feel better. Your speech, your action, your capacity to listen deeply helps him or her transform and remove the suffering…”Mudita
“Mudita means joy. The kind of joy that is shared by both. … True love should include joy. And you are able to enjoy his/her joy and he/she is able to enjoy your joy, because you are no longer two seperate entities. You are one with the person you love. That is why, when you see that person happy, you feel very happy. You consider his/her happiness as yours. And when you see the person unhappy, you are able to do something in order to help him or her to suffer less. You don’t say ‘That’s your problem!’ In true love there is no statement like that. Your joy is his/her joy, his/her joy is your joy.”Upeksha
“Upeksha means non-discrimination. And this is a higher form of love. You love him/her, not because the person belongs to the same race, having the same kind of skin color, or sharing the same kinds of spiritual paths. … You love the person, because the person suffers and needs your love. … When you love, your love should include everyone. … When your heart is able to embrace everyone (no matter what their race, nationality or religion is), every living beings, it has no longer any frontiers. Your heart becomes immense. And when the love in your heart is like that, you don’t suffer anymore. … Enlarge your heart to make it into something unlimited… and you can accept everything.”❤️
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