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February 15, 2026 at 9:00 pm #455253
AlessaParticipantHi Everyone
Happy Chinese New Year, Happy Lunar New Year and Ramadan Mubarak! π©΅
February 16, 2026 at 10:13 am #455270
anitaParticipantHappy π Chinese New Year π ,
Happy Lunar New Year π
Happy Ramadan Mubaraki β¨οΈ
May you, Alessa, and I, and everyone reading this, experience less Sad and more Happy π today, and every day π π€
π π β¨οΈ
February 16, 2026 at 5:42 pm #455274
Thomas168ParticipantHappy Chinese New Year. Year of the horse.
February 17, 2026 at 11:59 am #455285
Thomas168ParticipantThose who observe Ramadan must abstain from eating from the early hours of dawn til dusk. It is meant to bring one closer to God. Personally, I do not think I could do that. Find myself camped out at the fridge all day. One might think being diabetic might make it easier to control the diet. It doesn’t. Too high or too low levels of blood sugar can be very detrimental. Guess I may never be as close to God as some. Bless you all.
March 27, 2026 at 11:07 am #456366
anitaParticipantHow are you. Alessa? I hope your studies are going well as well as your full house, π, π and humans π
March 27, 2026 at 1:49 pm #456369
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
Sorry Iβve been quiet, Iβve just been really busy, as usual these days. Thanks for check in with me. How are you and Bogart doing? π€
The cat is finally free of all tangles and I have given him a trim to make sure the areas that matt are a bit shorter which should make things easier in the future. I also trimmed his back end so it won’t get dirty when he goes. It’s not that he was in a terrible state, it’s just when itβs a new cat it takes forever doing a bit at a time, twice a day because of trust. Fortunately, I shouldn’t have to do any trimming for another month at least. Just a quick daily brush once a day now.
I got 84% on my last test. I’m already part way through the next one. It’s back to back at the moment.
Still trying to potty train, it’s kind of regressed a bit because I don’t have the same zeal as I did at the beginning. I’m sure heβll get there in time.
Trying to make the cat comfortable. Heβs got some new toys. I’m making a cardboard scratcher for him. It’s nice that heβs getting more playful. π
I’ve also been reading a book called Denial of Deal. A friend recommended it to me. I’m about half way through, I should be done soon. A couple of more days, maybe? It’s got some interesting points.
My son should start nursery at the end of April, so hopefully that will make things easier. π€
March 27, 2026 at 3:03 pm #456372
anitaParticipantDear Alessa:
I am βΊοΈ to hear from you. It sounds like you’ve been very busy for a long time. Iβm glad you wrote when you could π€
Bogart and I are doing well. I am sitting comfortably on a lounge chair right now, typing on the (surviving) computer, while Bogart is sleeping and lightly snoring besides me πΆπ€
It must have taken a lot of patience to work through all those tangles with the cat, especially while building trust at the same time. Itβs sweet to picture him getting more playful and comfortable in your home π±
Congratulations on the 84% πβ thatβs a strong result, especially with everything else youβre juggling. It makes sense that the tests feel backβtoβback right now, but you seem to be moving through them skillfully.
Potty training can definitely ebb and flow, so I heard. Itβs such a long process, and your energy naturally shifts over time. Like you said, heβll get there.
Iβm glad youβre finding the book interesting. I’ll be curious to hear your thoughts about it.
And starting nursery at the end of April sounds like it could bring some rest π΄π€ into your days. I hope that transition goes smoothly for both of you.
π€ Anita & Bogart
April 3, 2026 at 3:06 pm #456617
AlessaParticipantDear Anita
How are you doing?
I was glad to hear that you and Bogart are well before. π€
Yes, I guess that is being a parent for you. It never stops, especially when youβre studying. π
Thank you for caring Anita. I really appreciate it! π€
I guess the book basically suggests that death makes us uncomfortable, so we try to distract ourselves from it, but it drives everything we do.
It struck me, of all of the things that I spoke about in therapy I never spoke about that. I feel like sometimes therapy is talking around the issue. Sometimes the words are never said.
I guess, I kind of think of anything that fosters survival falls under the death anxiety umbrella. π βοΈ
I guess, even though flashbacks are better the underlying anxiety from the past is still there. I think the book does a good job of shining light onto things that people donβt really want to look at. This is one of them for me. Another is the difficulties of being a parent. My son is a blessing. Iβm very lucky. But it is not always easy. It is a feeling that is very uncomfortable to me. I love my son and I judge myself for not being able to cope with everything perfectly sometimes. π€
Happy Easter everyone! π©΅ π€
April 3, 2026 at 4:02 pm #456619
anitaParticipantDear Alessa:
HaPpY EaStEr π£ π° π π€ π£
I’ll write more later.
Bogart and me.
April 3, 2026 at 8:17 pm #456623
anitaParticipantDear Alessa πΊ (ha-ha, using my phone, the Ale emoji just shows up):
Being Bogart’s mom is giving me the feeling of how difficult it is to be a human mom.
Earlier today, I decided to walk up to the mailbox π¬ by myself, and as I did, I could hear him bark as I walked 2 the mailbox (5-10 min away) and as I walked back from the mailbox.
So, I am no longer free to come and go on my own.
Death anxiety: Yes, I can’t believe that I’ll really die, that my existence has an ending: “died”, “passed on”-
Really? I don’t know life without me being part of it.
I am naturally attached to.. me, seeing what my eyes π are seeing, hearing what my πs are hearing, feeling what my π©΅ is feeling.
* I still appreciate π you using blue and white hearts just so to accommodate my preference/ triggers- ever since I told you about it. Means a lot 2 me π
Judging yourself for not being able to cope with everything perfectly- I hear you, Alessa.
Sometimes, on my long walks with Bogart, I get angry π with him, and so impatient, because he pulls hard and insists on going backwards and sideways, and sometimes I get so angry.
I’m just a beginner dog-mom but long-enough at the job to get a sense of how difficult it is 2 b a human mother.
I appreciate π you and I am grateful for you, Alessa!
π©΅ π€ π πΊ π©΅ Anita
April 5, 2026 at 10:53 pm #456659
Thomas168ParticipantHappy Easter everyone,
Sorry, having been busy. Trying to fix TPMS light on the car. One sensor in tires is dead. Replaced it. Now the car needs new brakes. Need to measure rotors before ordering them. Toyota has different versions of the car. So not sure the size. Different for Japan built or North America built. Other than that, just trying to stay healthy. Have been getting headaches lately. So stopped meditation for a while. Been dizzy.
Been thinking more about death. Realize nothing to worry about. It will come for everyone. Only can try to live well and be happy. Otherwise the time we have will be wasted. Don’t know the future. Or got to go.
April 6, 2026 at 7:42 am #456666
anitaParticipantGood morning, Thomas π
Thank you and glad to read from you this day after Easter π£
The biggest job I ever performed on a car was to check the oil level and add oil. So, from where I’m at, I admire your ability to do all the mechanical work you’re able to do π
Is feeling dizzy and having headaches a result of high blood pressure?
I wish you calm and health, Thomas π
π€ Anita
April 6, 2026 at 6:38 pm #456691
Thomas168ParticipantSorry for the interruption. Had to drive my daughter to her school for class. One class in person and the others are on line. These days the teachers don’t teach. They set up classes on line and have the students do their studies on line. No presentations. No actual teaching. Schedule tests and that is it. So, different from when I went to college. Anyway, proud of her progress.
Yeah, truly like working on cars. Unfortunately, getting older and many things aren’t as easy as before. Had a nail in the tire today. Took it off and pulled the nail out. Put a plug in with glue. Holding air now. The TPMS sensor alerted me to the leak.
Oh, yeah, thoughts about death. Nothing new in the world about it. Because of our ego and thinking mind, we have created this idea of self. Our world is made up of our thoughts and we created this ego. So, it can not see its own end. And death is only allowing the energies to migrate to another vessel. The Karma created during this life needs to find it resolution. And so, the next life finds its way to do this.
Of course, people have always said that energy can not be created nor destroyed only transformed from one state to another. And so, when we die, the energy moves along. What we experience along the way is the way it has always been from the beginning of life to the end of the universe. And then on to the next universe.
Sorry, got carried away in my thoughts. I really need to start meditating again. The quiet. The emptiness is where we came from and it is where we go.
So, how is everything with you? Are you happy?
April 6, 2026 at 7:24 pm #456694
anitaParticipantGood evening, Thomas π
Interruption? Not at all. It is truly a pleasure to read from you π
And you getting carried away in your thoughts- please do (I do every day)
Good job π fixing the hole in the tire and all the other mechanical fixing that you do!
In the last few years, I have spent more time and miles walking than driving, strange..?
Reading from you over time, I learned that you’re truly a dedicated father and husband. Admirable.
About death- true.. it is not energy destroyed. It’s energy transformed.
Allowing energy such as shame and guilt to transform while still alive in this (aging) body- is what is taking place in my mind and heart these very days, and that’s as happy as I can be π
Thank you, Thomas for asking, for posting, for sharing π
π π€ Anita
April 7, 2026 at 2:39 pm #456709
AlessaParticipantHi Tommy
Thanks so much, it’s good to hear from you, as always! I know how hard it can be to find the time when you are busy. π©΅
I was surprised to hear you have a Toyota as a yank. It seems that not many do and American cars are generally preferred. The UK has a lot of Toyotas. I hope you can find the parts for it. π
So lovely to hear how proud of your daughter studying! I wish her luck. I bet she’s proud to have a dad who is so good at fixing things. π
Yes, I noticed that in my studies too. I don’t even bother going to the online lectures anymore.
Very true, I think it’s important to spend time with loved ones and make memories. So much of life as we get older is in our memories.
My sonβs memory is improving. It’s wild. Now he remembers my promises and calls me out on them. When he woke up from his nap he told me some nice memories he had from the morning. Otherwise, he has tractors and fire engines on the brain.
Best wishes to you and your family! π©΅
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