Not only are you labeling yourself as a bit of an object “a married woman” but you’re projecting him thinking of you as an object: “went after a married woman”. That you were “duped”. By a clever con artist, right? 😉

You don’t know what he’s thinking. Maybe he thinks about you everyday. Maybe he is just as stuck, sad, remorseful, guilty and wanting more. Maybe he’s putting up a cordial front because he thinks you’ve moved on, he’s scared of your husband, maybe he’s protecting your reputation.

I don’t know how it went down or how it ended, but you can instead think of yourself as a woman who needs attention, kissing, excitement and intimacy. And, mystery! (Not to make light of the affair at all.)

If you were a housecat or a car in 100 households, you would be surprised how many people go where people think they wouldn’t, and how many people come in that aren’t part of the family!

Every, but every neighborhood has active guilt going on about something. It’s just people take turns.

Congratulations! You found out that you are utterly human, and want to change that!

Now, I recommend the book Kosher Adultery. It talks about just this issue and how to spice up things with DH, which is the real issue at the end of the day.