I appreciate the candor in both of your responses. I do not want to be controlling. My wife last night offered to delete the person who was bothering me from her “friends” area. She clarified that she has never privately chatted with him, etc and their correspondence is simply by commenting in an occasional post. Based on that and a need to trust, I told her not to take him off, as I didn’t want her to voluntarily or involuntarily feed my monster. She’s actively involved in spiritual, scientific, home improvement groups on Facebook and asking her to remove that from her life is not an option for me, as it is a part of her I cherish. Yes, this is a horrible trigger, but I know it’s me that has to be at peace here. It sucks being aware of my own deeply flawed way of thinking but not being able to manage it effectively. I started off the day again, crying and stuck in that same damn feedback loop of what ifs.

Matt