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Cynthia Kane is a communication coach, mindfulness teacher, and bestselling author who helps people stay calm, clear, and kind in difficult conversations. She has helped more than 70,000 people through her books, courses, workshops, and training programs. Cynthia blends Buddhist wisdom, mindfulness practices, and practical communication tools to help people communicate more intentionally with themselves and others. She is the author of four books, her latest is The Pause Principle: How to Keep Your Cool in Tough Situations. Visit her at cynthiakane.com.

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How Better Communication Changed My Relationships and My Life

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“When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction.” ~Peter Bromberg

Have you ever looked around at other people’s lives and wondered, “How do they do that?”

How do they seem so steady, so connected, so… together?

From where I stood, there appeared to be a certain kind of person—someone confident, kind, thoughtful, and at ease in her relationships. And because she enjoyed her relationships, she seemed to enjoy her life.

I was not her.

For a long time, I thought I was the “nice” one in my relationships because I avoided confrontational conversations. But …