Posts by Sarah-Jane Dalby

Sarah-Jane was named after Doctor Who's companion in the cult British TV show, but call her SJ. She’s a storyteller who loves to communicate through film/TV, writing, painting/design, photography, and more. She’s a devoted yogi, passionate world traveler, random dog cuddler, and dark chocolate tester. (That last one is unofficial, but she’s a very committed amateur!) She’s also an Aussie mate, so say G’day on Instagram @woozysatsuma.

What Not to Say to Someone Who’s Going Through a Breakup or Divorce

“Good friends help you to find important things when you have lost them…your smile, your hope and your courage.” ~Doe Zantamata 

Divorce or the end of a long-term relationship is one of hardest, if the not the hardest, trial you might be faced with in life. Unfortunately, unless you’ve experienced it firsthand, it’s very hard to believe this statement.

For most of my fifteen-year relationship, I didn’t believe it. Sure, I commiserated with friends who were suffering through breakups, but I did so with a superiority complex, a judgment about how they got themselves into that situation through relationship neglect.…