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Tim Wekezer grew up with two narcissistic parents and spent twenty years learning techniques he could never use in the moment. The gap between knowing and doing led him to build Nagi (nagipeace.com), an app that lets you practice narcissistic abuse conversations out loud with an AI until your responses become automatic. He recently shared his story on Reddit, where it reached over 300,000 people. Say hi at hello@nagipeace.com.

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Why I Couldn’t Stop Reacting (Even Though I Knew Better)

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“Knowledge is not skill. Knowledge plus ten thousand times is skill.” ~Shinichi Suzuki

I knew exactly what to say to my narcissistic mother. I just could never say it.

For twenty years I studied every technique in the book. Gray rocking (becoming emotionally neutral and unreactive). Broken record (calmly repeating the same boundary). Don’t JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain). I could explain these strategies to a stranger at a coffee shop with complete clarity.

But when my mom was sitting across from me at dinner, pushing every button she knew I had, all of it vanished. Every single time.

My

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