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January 20, 2022 at 9:01 am #391651
I still feel a bit lost but I am making an effort to find happiness again in everything I do. I decided to stop being a perfectionist and instead just give myself a break, just doing enough and being enough is the best for me.
Thanks for your follow up, I appreciate this space more than you know.January 9, 2022 at 7:43 am #390905
Your thoughtful message has actually helped me so much, I can relate to your situation and I know how it feels. This connection you allowed me to have through empathy feels like I have been heard for the first time. I set up myself for failure through my negativity and that makes me think about other people letting me down.
You have carefully crafted a plan for me to get better just by reading my plea for help, I am deeply thankful and I will follow them to get better. I hope you feel better too, I’m sure you already do a great job and I would love to continue this line of communication.January 9, 2022 at 7:32 am #390903
Thank you for letting me express these feelings, it’s a deep sensation rooted in me hating the idea that my father abandoned me and chose to let me fend for myself and the abandonment that it entailed. I feel betrayed because my parents didn’t allow me to fully complete my aspirations, I was a good student and I can’t help but feel I could have been so much more than this in another career or field.
I lied to my therapist about my real issues because I am somehow afraid of talking about myself or what is hurting me because I don’t want or don’t know how to explore my emotions or reactions, sometimes I feel like I am making it into a bigger deal than it is.
You are a healer, thanks so much for everything you do for this forum. I appreciate you.January 8, 2022 at 12:53 pm #390885
I appreciate your take on this situation, I am trying to think about lies people have told me but nothing comes to mind, perhaps the idea I had about my parents not supporting me enough or forcing me to work at such a young age to take care of our family is what is hurting. Not a lie, but a betrayal to everything I wanted to be. That actually makes a lot of sense. See, I wanted to have a different career and I was a promising student, now I feel stuck and angry but I don’t know how to let go of those feelings.
Thanks for replying!January 8, 2022 at 12:50 pm #390884
I do feel tremendously split between those 2 versions, not wanting to fail but also not enjoying what I do. I would love to know where to start taking care of myself or at least stopping the anxiety. Your take on self-esteem fills me with joy and hopefulness.
I feel like I want to do a good job perhaps because I am trying to fill that hole I mentioned, it’s the only thing I can control at least.
Thanks for reaching out!January 8, 2022 at 7:46 am #390871
I love your take, I think you’re absolutely right and it just clicks for me.
I feel like the hole absorbs everything: good or bad, I feel like I am but a fragment of who I was and those good feelings I used to have are gone. I feel like it stems from my very core: my back, my hips, my throat hurts from all this suppressing. I would love to be free from my own mind, my insecurities, my low-self esteem. I wish I could just feel full and happy again. I am aware I’m missing something but I don’t even know where to start. I think that I became aware of this problem this year because I am afraid of not being enough for my students and not being up to standards. I somehow can’t seem to feel enough.
I appreciate your insight! Thanks for helping me through this.March 22, 2018 at 5:19 pm #198889
Being in a relationship is hard if you don’t really love the person with, he could have struck you as a perfect match but let me be the first to tell you that he’s a troubled man and will only take you down with him.
It’s important for me that you understand that separation is vital for your mental health now, even though i don’t know you I can tell that you’re a patient and determined woman but please know what you’re worth and stop feeling like he’s the only one for you.</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Yes, you will probably feel sad and vulnerable once he is gone but let’s see him as a bullet that need to be removed from your skin, it will hurt and it will leave a scar but it’s all about preventing infection.
About you not knowing where to go, I suggest you try something new and adventurous. Go on a vacation, pick a random country or state and just start from scratch.
He might try to look for you when he satisfies his sexual urges but don’t take him back, you’re unique and worthy of someone who loves you and fights for you as much as you have so don’t settle for less.