Dear Peter:

“Life hurts when we measure ‘love’ and entangle it with attachment, fear, and dependency. Perhaps a cosmic view”- I see why you stay away from getting entangled in attachment and why the cosmic view is attractive. I think that it will do me some good to get more into the cosmic view of love. It’s comforting.

“’Where there is love, there is no pain, no conflict. Pain arises when love is entangled with the self.’ – Krishnamurti”- Untangled Peter is a Free Peter, or freer..?

“As you have hinted it’s possible, if not likely, I hide behind the cosmic view to avoid pain of vulnerability”- hiding is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes, it’s a good thing. It’s a good thing to hide from a threat, a threat like getting entangled and losing control, or agency.

“Yet since engaging with the question ‘What’s love got to do with it’ (referred to in other posts) I haven’t escape pain and in some ways feel it more deeply if… different.”- .. entangled in cosmic love?

I may be talking nonsense, right above, Cosmic No- Sense (CNS). I wrote whatever came to mind, untangling myself from the need to make sense 😊

anita

Dear Peter:

You do not disappoint me. Not at all (I find myself smiling and feeling affection for you as I am type this). I don’t feel hurt or anger. I feel content that I was able to freely express to you my desire to hear your voice, and pleased that you responded the way that aligns with what you need and want. It’s an honest, respectful exchange. Honesty and respect do not disappoint me

I will hear your voice though- Forever and ever, so may it be- In the heart of the One, eternally free.

anita

To put it simply, Peter: I have a desire to hear your voice before you merge your Temporal with the Eternal. It’s just what I want. Expressed simply: I want to hear your VOICE.

And I want you to hear my voice. It’d be a dream come true, something I want.

Of course, what you want matters.

just saying, it’s something I want. A desire expressed.

Expressing desires is okay. Is it, Peter?

anita

Dear Alessa:

Thank you! I am glad your son is getting better!

“People are fallible and make mistakes. The need for unconditional love is a human need.”- very true, Alessa. So very true.

“When lives are not compatible it is necessary to part ways, so everyone can move on and be happy.”- I wonder if this means what I think it means, based on things you shared and later deleted. If it means what I think it means, I am sorry, Alessa. This must be very difficult for you. I wish it wasn’t what (I think) it is.

It makes me sad (again, I am assuming I know the context) because of all the positive things you shared in the past about the relationship, all your loving and caring emotions and thoughtfulness.

You are strong to be going through this and yet being as caring and empathetic as you are here, in the foorums. You are the bee’s knees, Alessa! ❤️

anita

Strange thing—I feel a shift today, a sense of inner peace. Suddenly (and it truly feels sudden), I no longer take other people’s thoughts and emotions so personally. In the past, even the slightest hint of criticism or rejection weighed heavily on my mind, causing distress, then anger.

But today, I feel an unexpected sense of acceptance—of people simply living their lives, facing their struggles, just as I face mine.

Most of the time, others’ struggles aren’t about me. Most of the time, others’ struggles and withdrawals aren’t because I did something wrong. If someone doesn’t feel like engaging with me, that’s—surprisingly—okay. It’s not a reflection of me; it’s simply about who they are and where they are at this time.

I realize now that my old way of thinking stemmed from a belief imposed on me by my mother—that I was responsible for her suffering. I internalized the idea that if someone feels bad or withdraws, it must be my fault. That false belief shaped so much of how I viewed interactions with others.

But today, I see the truth—it is most of the time- not about me at all. And with that realization comes a deep sigh of relief.

Also, it never ceases to amaze me how powerful mothers are in their children’s lives, literally shaping their children’s brains.

anita