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Just read your post and couldn’t believe the tone. You really are a vile little man aren’t you, yet somehow you want me to take advice from you?!.
Tiny Buddha does not need your like, your other posts suggest the same. You will find that 🙂 is rarely used here for a reason – perhaps you’d be better suited to something on a teenage facebook site perhaps ?.
I have received some good incite on this post, yet for some reason you have seen fit to project some immature nonsense at me.
I had a positive discussion with the “ex” yesterday as you put it and we’re in a good place now as a matter of fact, thanks for asking!!
Dear oh dear Alex
I would get more sense and intelligence from a 5 year old kid. I hope for your sake you don’t have any aspirations in this industry. This post is over
What are your questions exactly ??!!! You have not asked any questions (in english), if you had some constructive questions I might have answered them.
Let’s look at what you said, and see if there is a misquote on my part:
“First step is to admit that you are not perfect, and that other people may perceive you in a way that you yourself don’t see yourself. In your particular case, it sounds like you are not willing to listen to your girlfriend’s opinion about you and your behaviour”
So… 1st step look at yourself right?… obvious really therein lies the problem. Never mind that SHE left ME without explaining anything in a cold callous way, but lets keep going – then you say
“It sounds like you are not willing [to listen] to your girlfrinds opinion abut you and your behaviour”. Definetely no balance of the sexes thing going on there!!!! Once again, duh Dave it’s you!! Because Alexey you were there when it happened right to suggest it’s me that is the problem LOL
There in b&w. So I did not misquote you. You clearly don’t have a clue about relationships or have anything constructive to say here, merely as I said before lay blame on me. Is this normal for you?, I have seen some of your other posts and they don’t seem to gather much support.
I will check it out the book many thanks. There was a lot of investment in the relationship from both of us, and a lot of honest communication I believed so why just walk away without any proper explanation / closure ? Instead they close down.
This is callous, and needless so I am having to work through this, and thus forgiveness and acceptance is the end game. When someone leaves you like this it really does feel like someone has died.
As for Alexey’s comments, I’m always suspicious of anyone who feels the need to use several 🙂 annotations in one post to back up a flailing argument.
“You are not willing to listen to your girlfriends opinion of your behaviour”
This is a judgement that you are making Alexey of me (do you know me?) and that the blame lies with me only, and that she has done nothing wrong, nor needs to account for her actions. Let alone lovers and close friends, when you crudely reject someone some basic manners are required. She has acted without honour, and she will need to live with that.
I agree with Peter, that we need to move through earlier stages of anger. It’s been 3 weeks now and I have almost got through the pain, tears, anger. Thus the post and progression to acceptance and forgiveness which I am bridging.
Intellectually we understand what to do as humans, but the power of emotions is such that it’s easier said than done.
accept there is an impermanence to anything and everything we hold dear; including deep and long relationships.