I said I would like to continue speaking with you. If you feel we should not- then that is fine.

i am not sure what is happening here or why you are angry with me. I would like to understand why you no longer wish to speak with me.

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by cali sister.

Anita- I never said you were dishonest. That is your take on it.

Relaxing sounds good to me!

I feel odd about this mentorship idea you had – since it still seems to aggravate you. How about we just drop it.

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by cali sister.

Dear Anita,

I hope you are feeling better today. Yesterday was a blast. I didn’t sleep until 3 am haha. I’ll send you more pictures later.

I would like to ask you something – to perhaps be honest with me on days you’re having that are difficult. What do you think?

Ok with regards to this structured plan that we have initiated – I believe we need to set up guidelines because I think I am a bit confused as to what happens after we number these goals etc.  I like the idea of a structured plan and I like your thoughts of how it will improve my life – but I am unclear a bit on how to proceed. When you have the time- we can discuss this

Understood.

so what do you think about what I wrote about that goal?

My above post did not reflect. Anyway – your email stated – we can try a structured mentor/ mentored relationship where we come up with your shot term goals (and long term goals), a daily routine, plans on how to handle distressing events at work, such as today, plan ahead step 1, 2, 3 and so forth. I can give it more thought.

Alright. I think easier for me will be daily routine right now.

Also I forgot to respond to the other goal that we were discussing. The one about flirting. Yes perhaps the best word to use is not flirting. However, I am simply interested in him. At this moment, I am not doing anything actively to pursue him. Not going to ask anyone or him.

1. I agree

2. I don’t completely agree. I don’t do anything inappropriate at this time with him. And if there’s a spark, it’s impossible for me to ignore it. I think this rule is a little too extreme. Perhaps it can be more lenient to make it more realistic.

3. Completely agree.

– explain to me more the plans you have for this. The criteria and how we move forward. I know you said something about long term and short term goals.

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by cali sister.

Dear Anita,

Yes, I did something wrong. However, like you said the way she took it was completely not what I said at all. Also. There was something that I was said that I did this past Wednesday, which was actually completely false. A true lie. A true rumor.

yes – of course I admit it. Or else I wouldn’t have been so upset and apologized like I did. I know it was wrong. But my reaction of being fired – is not normal. I need a statement to remind myself that this is a event. And that’s it. Not termination. I mean that’s so dramatic!

also – to clarify – many jobs for A. My job is very specific – so I am in a niche that is not readily available.

But yes – the lesson is learned. I think this is a common thing many people learn during their first job. I’m glad I learned it without even being a year in.

my issue is – all or none thinking. So the inability to compartmentalize this situation that happened from an exciting vacation coming up.