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  • in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #320143
    cali sister
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    Okay. You have misunderstood how I wrote it completely. I write differently than you. I never meant to say you were dishonest. I don’t say such things. It is mind boggling that such a wonderful relationship ends over a misunderstanding  when you asked me to clarify I said – no of course not.

    you have broken my heart. Have a good life.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #320057
    cali sister
    Participant

    I said I would like to continue speaking with you. If you feel we should not- then that is fine.

     

    i am not sure what is happening here or why you are angry with me. I would like to understand why you no longer wish to speak with me.

    • This reply was modified 8 months, 1 week ago by cali sister.
    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #320053
    cali sister
    Participant

    <p style=”text-align: left;”>to be honest – I am sensing what happened last time we stopped speaking. And I would like to continue speaking. So rather avoid anything that will cause that. I am doing my best and all that I can.</p>

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #320049
    cali sister
    Participant

    Anita- I never said you were dishonest. That is your take on it.

    Relaxing sounds good to me!

    I feel odd about this mentorship idea you had – since it still seems to aggravate you. How about we just drop it.

    • This reply was modified 8 months, 1 week ago by cali sister.
    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #320043
    cali sister
    Participant

    Not at all! I just care about you! And if you’re having a difficult day – I won’t type too much until you recover.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #320009
    cali sister
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    I hope you are feeling better today. Yesterday was a blast. I didn’t sleep until 3 am haha. I’ll send you more pictures later.

    I would like to ask you something – to perhaps be honest with me on days you’re having that are difficult. What do you think?

    Ok with regards to this structured plan that we have initiated – I believe we need to set up guidelines because I think I am a bit confused as to what happens after we number these goals etc.  I like the idea of a structured plan and I like your thoughts of how it will improve my life – but I am unclear a bit on how to proceed. When you have the time- we can discuss this

     

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319925
    cali sister
    Participant

    Anita –

     

    please rest. It’s interesting how well you get to know someone. I noticed this within you. That you were having a difficult day. I hope you know you can always talk about you too. Through email if you’d like. Talk when you can.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319921
    cali sister
    Participant

    Understood.

    so what do you think about what I wrote about that goal?

     

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319917
    cali sister
    Participant

    I am not sure why you would be angry with me or feel that you are investing more. It makes me feel a bit odd. I didn’t come up with the idea per se. And of course it is great and for my healing – however I think you may have expected a bit too much from me right away. My mind is very fragile right now.

    I’m not sure what you really mean by investing more. It kind of makes no sense to me. I feel a bit angry now myself. Perhaps you were projecting again.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319911
    cali sister
    Participant

    My above post did not reflect. Anyway – your email stated – we can try a structured <span class=”term-highlighted”>mentor</span>/ <span class=”term-highlighted”>mentored</span> relationship where we come up with your shot term goals (and long term goals), a daily routine, plans on how to handle distressing events at work, such as today, plan ahead step 1, 2, 3 and so forth. I can give it more thought.

    Alright. I think easier for me will be daily routine right now.

    Also I forgot to respond to the other goal that we were discussing. The one about flirting. Yes perhaps the best word to use is not flirting. However, I am simply interested in him. At this moment, I am not doing anything actively to pursue him. Not going to ask anyone or him.

     

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319909
    cali sister
    Participant

    Anita,

    I am trying to understand what this mentor/mentorship idea is and how it will go. I have to re read your email about it and your post on tiny Buddha about it. Sisters pup has been very sick. I hardly slept and then my sister is also sick. So I was a bit over taken by all that this AM. Also the anxiety in general. Feel much better after a bath. I’m headed to my friends place now in order to get ready for a Halloween cruise. I’ll show you my costume.

    But I’d like to say something – and correct me if I’m wrong – you sounded a bit aggravated in this last post that you sent. Especially at the end. I’m not sure why. I never said I would not participate. I’m having a hard time forming all my thoughts in order to write goals. I feel that .. I need assistance in thinking that largely after something like NC. I’m still in the acute phase. So – you writing the goals helped. It will take me time to write mine.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319873
    cali sister
    Participant

    1. I agree

    2. I don’t completely agree. I don’t do anything inappropriate at this time with him. And if there’s a spark, it’s impossible for me to ignore it. I think this rule is a little too extreme. Perhaps it can be more lenient to make it more realistic.

    3. Completely agree.

    – explain to me more the plans you have for this. The criteria and how we move forward. I know you said something about long term and short term goals.

    • This reply was modified 8 months, 1 week ago by cali sister.
    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319825
    cali sister
    Participant

    Okay. I understand. Well. That being said. I am ready for the mentorship. I understand it has to be structured. Go ahead.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319813
    cali sister
    Participant

    Dear Anita,

    Yes, I did something wrong. However, like you said the way she took it was completely not what I said at all. Also. There was something that I was said that I did this past Wednesday, which was actually completely false. A true lie. A true rumor.

    yes – of course I admit it. Or else I wouldn’t have been so upset and apologized like I did. I know it was wrong. But my reaction of being fired – is not normal. I need a statement to remind myself that this is a event. And that’s it. Not termination. I mean that’s so dramatic!

    also – to clarify – many jobs for A. My job is very specific – so I am in a niche that is not readily available.

    But yes – the lesson is learned. I think this is a common thing many people learn during their first job. I’m glad I learned it without even being a year in.

    my issue is – all or none thinking. So the inability to compartmentalize this situation that happened from an exciting vacation coming up.

    in reply to: New and Improved: the journey, rebirth, a new world #319805
    cali sister
    Participant

    Thank you. I think bc of this recent NC, acute things I need more help with. I’ll wait for your response.

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