My friend, I had to learn the hard way, hopeless romantic is exactly that, hopeless. You however are not going to feel his pain, only yours. He may feel this is the greatest relationship ever with a few bumps in the road while you struggle, suffer and fake your happiness.
You will find, as most do, that ending a bad relationship is hard for a brief moment in time and upon reflection, prayer and meditation, it is liberating and freeing. Do you really want to drag an anchor?
On this site, you wont be lonely, we are here for you.

And YOU are always with YOU and you are amazing and worth true happiness.

His feelings are his feelings, he will deal with them on his own. Growth for him will come of this also in one way or another. This is not your problem, only your prayers for him are necessary. If you are unhappy and free yourself, you have given both people involved a great service, most important to yourself.
Be well

• This reply was modified 10 years ago by John Eric.

Well said Sandra. Open, transparent honesty in discussions with her are key here. But most important, how long will you let this make you feel uncomfortable. That is the choice you truly have power and control over. I went through the same situation not so long ago, I tried to talk through this situation, she did not want to talk about it and when she stated, “where does my privacy start and why is every aspect of my life your business?” I left her. Was she the one? No, I was!!!!!!!!