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ChristinaParticipantThank you all <3
All the answers are so helpful!ChristinaParticipantHi SV,
We have some things in common. I understand you feelings. I’m sorry. When I graduated the first time I thought: it’s done i will be happy. Not at all. I felt into depression, the the things you are describing you are living now. I decided then to come back in university for a master’s degree. One exam and I will be out again in the same old scheme. I understand you. For me, the only thing that works is doing things. It doesn’t matter what. Just do something. I don’t have any solution. I am still working on it too. But know that there is semeone, me, that understand you and I wish you the best.ChristinaParticipantHi my dears 🙂
I’m trying to change my daily routine, and I’m trying to do different things…being active in general.
I’m introvert and I’m not the queen of the dance floor or a party girl. But this doesn’t mean I’m boring or something. I have actually 3 friends (yes…easy to count them) but they laugh a lot with me, I’m funny, I love to laugh and make jokes.
My friends don’t leave near to me, I’m in the suburbia and they in the city. There is nothing exiting here, but once a year for 4 days there is a festival here. I’ve invited them, more than once, I said they could stay for the night in my house, I’ve tried everything, they’ve never come.
This is just an example, but they’ve never seen my house, where I live. In two years!
For example, I drive 2 hours to stay with them at the beach, and I don’t even like tan, but I did it for being all together.
This is a little unpleasant.
It’s ok to go to a big city, stay with them etc etc but it is always me to them. And coming home alone at night is not my favorite thing. I feel a little uncomfortable.
I don’t know who to explain to them my feelings, I don’t even know if it is a good idea. I don’t know what to do.
I don’t want to exaggerate but sometimes I feel like living in the suburbia is degrading, because nobody wants to come.ChristinaParticipantThank you @Peace
Yesterday I’ve met my doctor and she said that I’m fine despite of all the troubles.
A professional help really made a change for me.And Tiny Buddha too. This community really helps.
ChristinaParticipantHi, thanks for asking. I feel ok only when I’m active, as I stop, the doubts and fears are back again. tomorrow i’M going to meet my psychiatrist. It is a year we didn’t meet. I always feel very tired and I dont know if it is the hot weather, my mind, or I need a vacation. Maybe it’s a lot of reasons together. The positiv part is that since I opened myself here I feel less weight to carry.
ChristinaParticipantI’m sorry, dear. It’s a nightmare. I have a question. Are you sure that the worries about him, are instead about you? I mean, it could be possible that when you said he could get depressed, the money problem…his 3rd divorce, you are projecting on him your fear? Maybe you are worried about the same thing, plus first divorce and you are young…if it is so, my dear, you will be fine. It’s not a failure. Everything will be fine. You can torture yourself with this relationship.
ChristinaParticipantGary I understand your feeling. Once I’ve run over a cat. I’m a cat lady…It was an incident, not wanted at all. But It happened. I was even driving so so slow. Because I live in a farm, I used to deal with animals life. I tried sometimes to help little birds without parents…and trust me, you did a miracle. Your bird survived because of your cure. Something that never happened to me 🙁
What happened is just an incident. It’s not your fault. it wasn’t intentional and you cannot torture yourself like this. You did your best.
Sometimes I think about the cat I’ve run over…and it makes me feel bad but I remind myself that it was an incident. Tell yourself the same.July 26, 2013 at 4:30 pm in reply to: HELP! Provocation: am I too sensitive or is he overstepping? #39259ChristinaParticipantDear Helen, I don’t want to hurt you, but if you have a negative reaction to his sense of humor, you should trust your feelings. I want to be sincere, his humor is not funny at all. I felt uncomfortable reading the two sex allusions…I really admire you when you said that you explain your point of view to him calm. You have a very good self control. In this kind of situation I don’t. When he is in Portugal, you will have the time to think about your relationship. You don’t have to rush on any decision. take time for you, do something that inspires you, whatever it is and you will see the benefit. I wish you the best.
ChristinaParticipant@ PryingMiMi & gopipendyala:
wow! Thank you for your words. it is very appreciated 🙂ChristinaParticipantMy dear Tiny Dancer,
I don’t want to tell you that marriage is about love and all the romantic movie stuff part. I know that you know it. Have you ever seen the movie “green card” with Gerard Depardieu? I think it will answer to a lot of question. Please, see this movie asap!
Tiny Dancer, don’t marry someone nice. Marry someone right.
I’m a little concern about the sexual part. If there’s no sex now…there will be no sex later. Please please please, be careful. And I don’t wanna sound racist, I’m not. I had boyfriends from different countries and from the middle east too, but if he is from the middle east, be careful. The law there is very different. You can be caught in a web hard to break. If you have any question to ask me, please, write me. I will be happy to answer you.
ChristinaParticipantBrad, I’m sorry for what you are going through. I think you are very sensitive and you have a good heart. I can read how much this situation is getting you down. You are working hard for your job (cross finger for your business) and you are doing more than “the standard” for your girl. What you are doing is love. What she is doing isn’t, at least this is what it seems. You are doing more than the best you can to make things work, but it doesn’t make you happy. From what I’ve read, you seem to be someone that need love, a true one.
I dont’ want to sound rude, but you should let her go. Being alone is hard. Very hard. But I think letting a relationship drains your heart is worst.
You have an amazing heart. I hope that if you let your heart free from her, it will be fill with the right love soon. I don’t have very much to say, I just want to wish you the best. You need a rainbow after all these storms.ChristinaParticipantI like to help others, but I’ve always been too afraid and shy to do it. But now I will 🙂
ChristinaParticipant@ Barbara: “be proud of yourself”. I need to hear this 100000 times a day, at least! Ahahhaha. Thank you so much. I’m trying to tell myself to be proud of the goals I’ve reached. As you said, day by day, step by step.
@ treeroots: you signed up because of me! I’ve never thought I could ever have any impact on someone. You have my support too, as the support you gave me.
@ Iris: you’re name is a flower too. You’re right. As I started to read about Buddha, I feel better.I wanna say to all of you that I feel better today. It’s incredible how much this conversation helps me in 24 hours since I’ve started! I’ve opened my heart and it has been reached before it falls.
ChristinaParticipantI’ve read each of your comments 3 times, at least. I will print your comments.
I wanna thank you for your words. And I wanna thank Lori too ‘cos I’m here because of her.
All your words give me some fuel to go on and to go deep inside of me.@ John: thanks for telling me I’m a good person. Basically, I think I’m not and it is the main reason why I think I don’t deserve nothing good.
@ Jade: I’ve never thought about me as a survivor. It sounds better than damage hahaha
@ Matt: you say “I don’t have”, what I hear is “I wish for” or “I hope for”. This is something really touching. This words really touch me deeply inside. It is so true.
@ Sara: you make me feel less alone as woman.I would hug you all.
I will try to follow your practical advices.
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