Hi, Anita! Thank you for the human response, haha. I suspected the use of AI. When I say he loves me deeply, I mean that he really is trying his best, I know that. He compliments me, he tells me he loves me, he’s in awe of me, he adores me. And I truly appreciate that, but like I said, these small things like the favorite color incident really hurt me, because he can’t think like me, haha. Although, he has changed a lot for the better in our time together; I made him more mature and understanding, etc. I don’t want to lose him because I can see that he is devoted to me, and I do enjoy our time together a lot, but whenever something small happens, it ruins my whole day. I’m way too emotional over minuscule things. And I see him trying hard; he sometimes says poetic stuff too, haha. I tried breaking things off multiple times, and I just couldn’t. I missed him too much; he’s so sweet. I feel like I’m way too judgmental of him; he tries his best. I think this stuff affects me even more because we’re away from each other and we barely talk. I’m already sad because we’re slowly talking less and less, and when he misses an opportunity to say something poetic, I feel like we’re not maximizing our time together, and I get upset.

Thank you, Anita. I really don’t know how to deal with it. 🙁 It hurts.

There have been some instances where he had the chance to be super intimate and loving, but he didn’t see the opportunity. For example, we were talking about our favorite colors, and I wish he would’ve said something meaningful, like that his favorite color is the color of my eyes. And coming back to him not paying attention, he almost always forgets the things that I’ve said to him, and I get that it’s in his nature, but I always remember everything. I can even read his mind, and I know his emotions without him having to say a word. He rarely knows how I feel, or what I like. Stuff like this just eats away at me, because I wish he could be like me. And when we’re saying loving things to each other, I write him poetic and passionate letters, while his are mediocre. He can’t think and act like me, and it frustrates me. But I don’t want anyone else, and I don’t know how to be careless about it. Also, we are too busy to see each other these days, because we live relatively far away from each other, and so we just talk on the phone. But even then, we barely have time to talk; we talk about an hour per day if we’re lucky. And he sometimes chooses to multitask while talking to me, like playing the piano or scrolling on his phone. I wish he’d only pay attention to me. When we’re on FaceTime, he always checks his notifications even if he’s with his back turned and busy. I know that this is too silly to affect me, but it still does.

I have a boyfriend of nearly 3 years, and he loves me deeply and as much as he can, but he can never reciprocate the same passion and devotion as I do. We’ve talked about this multiple times, and sadly, that’s just not how he functions. I’m deeply hurt by this because I wish he’d be as attentive as I am, but it’s not in his nature. I feel like he is really the one for me, and I don’t want any other partner, but I feel disheartened that he can’t love as deeply as I do. Is there a way for me to not pay attention to this? He tries his best, but there are some small things that I care way more about than he does.