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  • #36769

    Ella
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    And thank you Bob, I like the analogy of negativity being like the common cold 🙂

    #36768

    Ella
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    Hi everyone, thanks a lot for all the tips. I will try to start putting them all into action 🙂 straightnochaser, do you find that reading positive affirmations every day helps you to feel more positive? I have never tried this but have heard some people find it useful. I will also read the blog post Kathleen, thank you for directing me towards it.

    #36713

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    That’s lovely that you are able to get through to people in your job, I bet so many of them are grateful to have spent some time with somebody who really cares 🙂 and you are right, you are most definitely above those who do not care about helping out a good cause. I also think that those who have more than a lot of people yet do not care tend to lack gratitude for all the things they do have. These types of people will never be truly happy because the happiness they experience is superficial and materialistic. However, the people who experience your kindness will gain so much more and this will stay with them. Whilst this will probably not make you feel better when dealing with the negative types, maybe it’s something to think about?

    #36642

    Ella
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    Perhaps I should also say, the negative experiences I have had in recent years are linked to relationship, partner as well as friendship, issues.

    #36641

    Ella
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    Hi Jason. A few years ago, whilst raising money for a local animal sanctuary, I found that for every kind hearted soul there were 20 people who really did not care! And, as you have said, dealing with an uncaring person will encourage you to feel more negative and this in turn will affect your mood for the rest of the day. I tended to try focusing purely on that one kind person I would encounter, thinking to myself that if everyday I was able to meet at least one kind person, that would be a good day. If I spent 2 hours dealing only with people who didn’t care, I would still keep up my positive attitude in case the next person I spoke with was that one kind soul! This way I found that I generally kept quite positive and this led to each day being more successful and I would find many more kind folk than just one 🙂

    #36640

    Ella
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    Hi Samir thank you for your reply. I have looked at both of the very helpful links you provided and read the words you have sent. However, I wonder if you have any tips (from personal experience) as to how to feel positive whilst keeping expectations low? I find that if I do not expect my expectations to be met, this can also lead me to feel down. Thank you again for your help I appreciate it.

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