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October 21, 2014 at 9:31 am #66573
I have been in this exact position. I feel like I could have written this myself five and a half years ago. I was in my first serious relationship for 3 years until we broke up in April 2009. I was heart broken for the longest time, we too had to cut all communication because he was quickly seeing some one else..and just as you said, some one I had my suspicions about while we were together and he denied that it was anything but mere coincidence. About a year down the road, they were broken up (she wasn’t such a nice person, it turns out.) A year and a half down the road, I began a wonderful relationship with the man I am now happily married to. It is a much much much healthier relationship and everything I’ve ever dreamed of. Yes the first few months are especially hard, and especially after being with some one for years the pain doesn’t suddenly go away in the blink of an eye. You will probably find out, now or down the road, that he’s not as happy as he is letting on to be with this other girl. My ex eventually admitted after they broke up that he always felt horrible about what he did to me and how I was the nicest and most supportive person he ever dated. Point is, by the time he realized that…I found out that I could be treated much better…and to this day I am in the most amazing relationship I’ve ever witnessed. Although right now it seems like almost nothing will make that hole in your heart go away, and picturing him with her makes you shudder (it made me shudder, too) there will come a time..maybe even not so long from now, that you will find out it really did happen for a reason..and your real prince charming was just waiting for you to be ready to be rescued.October 15, 2014 at 7:22 am #66306
Not sure if you already saw this today but you might find this helpful:October 15, 2014 at 6:39 am #66305
I go through this too.
Sometimes more often, some times this happens once a week.
It feels like I’m attacking myself but I have no defense.
I also battle with extreme anxiety, panic attacks, ect and they seem to tie in together.
I don’t have a lot of advice for you since I’m going through some thing similar but just know you are not alone.
Know you are worthy of love from yourself and from others
<3October 14, 2014 at 12:14 pm #66274
I would really recommend getting her into some counseling, even family counseling if possible.
My older sister battled anorexia for many years and eventually got to the point where she could have really lost her life if she didn’t make some changes.
She overcame it and she is now of healthy weight, a mother and almost 30 years old.
She went to counseling and we even went to family counseling with her and this helped her get help with some of the issues she was having inside.September 16, 2014 at 10:24 am #64958
Wow, you are not ready to be married.
I can see that she, your fiance, hurt you very bad, I am sorry for that…but if you are still hurt to the point of writing a letter like that to her you are not ready at all for such a commitment.
It sounds like something you’d write to someone upon breaking up, or to your worst enemy..not to your fiance before your wedding day.
The problem here is, these are your true feelings about this woman.
I agree with Josie that it sounds like you want “the love of your life” to feel pain.
Not only would I not give her this letter, I would not marry her..not with feelings like that hidden inside.August 1, 2014 at 1:54 pm #62419
I thought the same thing when I saw this video a few days ago.
It made me sad for her that she realized it at such a young age, as I know when I was that young I don’t think I gave it much of a thought.
At the same time, it may be good for her.
It is a hard lesson to learn know matter the age..and this will be a beautiful memory for her to share with her brother for years to come.July 28, 2014 at 11:38 am #61975
Thank you every one, I have truly taken to heart all of your responses and really appreciate all of the love & friendship you guys have to offer.