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April 4, 2014 at 3:57 am #54173
Been there done that dance, sister. And you know what…were still together. Youre story sounds very very similar to mine. Year and 1/2 invested as well. Not the end of the world like you think. As much as you try and convince a man to stay, its in both your best interests to wait it out. My bf and I never rwally broke up but he did have to do a lot of thinking for himself. Im not saying were engaged to be engaged, were just simply not thinking about the future. If you can help that, itll be a savior. At first I thought it was cuz of me as a person, but as manly as your man can get, they still have feelings even if they dont show them as often as we women do. Being in this relationship allowed me to see the changes I wanted to make cuz I knew I wasnt perfect for him either when we first started dating. All men are different when it comes to deciding whether or not to pursue a future. Some may come to it sooner than others but hes just being him. If you love him, try it out waiting for awhile. Pushing for answers doesnt get anywhere, in fact it could get quite obnoxious. Take the time to enjoy life together in the moment. My bf IS my best friend and I couldnt say that about my ex I was dating for 6 years. I know swollowing pride is hard, but only swollow what you allow to. Good luck!March 19, 2014 at 1:06 am #53051
I have some insecurities about mine as well. Im a 32AA to 32A. Which is basically nothing. Ive been with a few men throughout my life and all have had nothing to say about them. If the size is so important to your man then he probably wouldve come up with a reason to leave. But I dont think all men are that superficial. Have you considered augmentation. I know embracing what you have is a strong a beautiful thing but I considered it as well and will more then likely pull through with it in the future. Ive always wanted bigger ones just because I do look a little boyish. Nothing bad about it but I know id be more confident and happy afterwards. Nothing drastic or “fake looking”. Might make your bedroom life a little more exciting and theres nothing wrong with that. Most men like boobs and as women we choose to decide whether or not we let it bother us or not.March 18, 2014 at 2:44 am #52948
Hi there. I hope to be of some help to you because I can relate
to how you are feeling. I do believe however, every relationship is different. I dont compare my relationships to ones I see in the media, close nit friends, or just even couples out on the street. Not knowing the entirty of your relationship reguarding the past pre break up, I may not be quite where you are. Ive been in a relationship with a guy for a year now. I 26, him 22. Long story short the first 4-5 months of our relationship were rocky and a lot of us getting to know each other was through text. Him and I have never been friends on Facebook and were still not to this day. Thats my first piece of advice. Keep social networking out of a relationship unless you are 100% positive trust in your partner. Anywho, around the time things began to rocky he had admitted that I was not his “dream girl.” At the time I was heart broken. I kept thinking “where does that leave room for a potential future?” Too me it sounded like he was gonna have a fun ride for awhile until his “dream girl” came along and then id be brushed off as if I were nothing. Unfortunately for me, I carried that thought for another 4 or 5 month. And it did nothing but give constant worry about the future. That thought tho gave me a lot of self acceptance about who I was as a person. I dont know the man’s definition for “dream girl” but all I have to say is if shes out there good luck finding her a keeping her because I know that im not like most girls. Knowing my uniqueness is set apart from other girls keeps me driven to think that if there so happens that this “dream girl” comes along and im no longer his interest that its his loss not yours. As far as talking to other girls goes get honesty outta him. When my boyfriend was first texting, I like to call, “friend girls” he would always be texting when im out of the room and when id re enter hed shut his phone down and put his phone away. This alone made me weary but I called him out on it. I told him, to me, looking like your trying to hide something only makes me think the worst. If he continued to text whomever I wouldnt have any suspision because he could be talking to his mother or brother. But because he stuck his phone away anytime I entered the room it seemes suspisious. Those are a few scinerios of my relationship. As of right now him and I are on a great path. My suggestion right now would be to focus on the present state of your relationship. Dont think about where its going to go, think about where it is now. Enjoy the time you have together now. Know youll be a strong person and can do the things you want to do without him should another break up occur. Be honest with eacg other. Open and communicative. This takes BOTH of you. And lastly, accusing a man constantly isnt goinf to make things better. Has he accused you at all? How would you feel if he attacked you about talking to a guy? Im sure you have male friends, just as he has every right for female friends. Hope this helps. Hope this helps a little. Peace!