Dear Wildoceanflower,

I am young and not as experienced in life as you are, but from a 24 years old’s point of view, I feel that what will really make you happy again right now is learning to love yourself.

In university of a large lecture group, I literally have 1 friend in my course, and I usually go to school alone. I am in a long distance relationship with my 2 years boyfriend and we are currently in a rocky situation. I feel sad, anxious, and emotional; so much so that I get anxiety attacks from fearing my relationship may end when both of us are still in love. However, one thing I know for sure is that I am not lonely.

I think all the torments you are going through are self-inflicted ideas and emotions within yourself. The only person whom you should love and care for the most now is “you”. After you are contented with being with yourself, then can you give the best of yourself to someone else. I know self love and being optimistic is not an easy thing to do when you are so down about the situation. However, only when you put in the effort to love yourself and push away thoughts about another person’s life, you will be able to enjoy the rest of your days fully. Regardless of whether you are happy or sad, you still got to pass another day; so try your best to face the next day being happy with yourself.