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  • in reply to: My boyfriend doesn't like my family #142533
    Yu Wai
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    Dear Anita,

    Thank you so much for your advises.

    I am actually flying tonight, hence I can’t avoid or delay the matter. I’ll face it, however, I’ll keep all your advises in my mind during the trip.

    Once again, thank you so much

    Best regards,

    Yu

    in reply to: My boyfriend doesn't like my family #142447
    Yu Wai
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    Hello Anita,

    He knows and has interacted with my sister for a year as we are all studying in the same country. However, this will be the first time he would be meeting my father face to face.

    They had a tense conversation via Skype call about 3 weeks ago as my father found out I lost my virginity to him.

    He felt that it was ridiculous of my father to react in such an explosive manner as he has sincerely loved and took care of me for the past 2 years of our relationship. Hence he felt that my father has disrespected and despised him.

    Yu

    in reply to: My boyfriend doesn't like my family #142297
    Yu Wai
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    Dear Anita,

    Thank you so much for the response. I feel that letting him go is not the right choice because he has always taken care of my sister and I in place of my parents for the past 2 years that I have been away from home in a different country. He has acted responsibly and logically with an adult figure to guide us out of our childish college mistakes.

    I feel that he is a reliable and dependable man, who is very suited for me. For 2 years, we have been living together. Although we fight sometimes, we do not fight about lifestyle differences. I feel that this is the man I can and want to live with for the rest of my life. Because for the 2 years, I experienced how a married life with him would’ve felt like, and I feel happy and bless every minute of it.

    Yu

    Yu Wai
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    Hello Joan,

    I believe childhood experiences in the home is the greatest contributor to the hostile distance between you and your children. Although you have done your job as a single mother to provide and care for them, you may have neglected the importance of positive communication with them while growing up. You may not be too expressive about how much you love them or perhaps work and house keeping stress during those times overtook you and resulted in you being unable to show them the soft motherly side of yourself.

    People always lose touch with their innate motive when facing stress and pressure. This may have be the greatest cause of your children being unable to feel your love as a mother while growing up. Language is a very important tool when it comes to showing love and affection, however, most people neglect the importance of selecting the right words to use in comments and conversations.

    Maybe the next time you try to communicate with any of your children, you may try to word your ideas in a more gentler way and explain to them how their words and actions have made you feel.

    -Yu

    in reply to: Not myself, unable to let go #142235
    Yu Wai
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    Dear Wildoceanflower,

    I am young and not as experienced in life as you are, but from a 24 years old’s point of view, I feel that what will really make you happy again right now is learning to love yourself.

    In university of a large lecture group, I literally have 1 friend in my course, and I usually go to school alone. I am in a long distance relationship with my 2 years boyfriend and we are currently in a rocky situation. I feel sad, anxious, and emotional; so much so that I get anxiety attacks from fearing my relationship may end when both of us are still in love. However, one thing I know for sure is that I am not lonely.

    I think all the torments you are going through are self-inflicted ideas and emotions within yourself. The only person whom you should love and care for the most now is “you”. After you are contented with being with yourself, then can you give the best of yourself to someone else. I know self love and being optimistic is not an easy thing to do when you are so down about the situation. However, only when you put in the effort to love yourself and push away thoughts about another person’s life, you will be able to enjoy the rest of your days fully. Regardless of whether you are happy or sad, you still got to pass another day; so try your best to face the next day being happy with yourself.

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