Hi Neko

Thanks for your post.

Being a workaholic is not a disease or something to be ashamed of. However, if work starts to create an imbalance in other parts of the life, it can create a havoc.

You did what you did. Your needs for a loving partner were not being fulfilled by this guy you were dating regardless of his needs or work commitments. So there is nothing wrong with the decision that you made at the time. But now you have started to develop self-pity and some sympathy for the other guy after hearing another side of the story from his sister.

Often, we make decisions, which we have to regret later as when we make decisions, we do not take whole picture into account. We make emotional decisions as we are filled with anger, hurt, fear etc. We want instant relief from our sufferings and forget about the future consequences of our present actions.

An email is not a proper way of breaking up or sending an ultimatum. If you have issues creep in a relationship, have the decency to talk to the person. Keep an open mind.

The situation is not beyond repair in your case. Ring him and ask him what his issues are and what is preventing you guys from having a good relationship. And if after that, you realise that he is not the right man for you, have the guts to tell him that and end the chapter there. Do not keep going back to the past, yeah !!! When you finish with an issue, put a FULL STOP and move forward with your head held high up 🙂

And one more thing: You are NOT responsible for other people’s happiness or lessons in this world or life. You can provide your perspective to him but you cant expect him to change or pay attention to it. That’s where your responsibility ends. At the end of everything, an individual has to make own choices as to what their needs in life are. We can put the food in front of a person but to chew it and take it to down to the stomach is their own choice, yeah ?

Let the guilt go and embrace some lessons from this experience for the future.

Loads of positive energy coming your way.

Jasmine

Hey hey Kelly Congrats for moving forward in life.

Woman, why do you make things so complicated ? Can you just simply enjoy your now the way it is and I assure all other unnecessary issues will fix themselves.

Focus on simplicity n love n let life unfold beautifully for you rather than analyse, justify, analyse, justify on n on.

You are the one who is judging yourself the most. Can you just leave Kelly alone n let her move on forward ? Does this suit ?

Best wishes to all of you for your new journeys 🙂

Jasmine

Thanks everyone.

Hey Hannah, thanks for your post and a beautiful question 🙂

In my experience, there is no definite key to a good relationship. Everyone is unique and on their own journeys. However, when we are able to accept ourselves as we are, we find it easier to accept the other person for who they are without any prejudices and judgements and then every relationship becomes effortless.

Acceptance takes a lot of self growth and self awareness. It is not a team effort but it would useful to do it as a team as then you can move forward together. However, even if one person in the team can grow their awareness to such a level that you are able to accept the other people for who they are, the relationship takes a positive step forward. The positivity and divinity rubs onto other people and a shift occurs subtly but surely.

If everyone could just work on themselves ONLY, we can change the world in a way that no one can ever imagine but unfortunately, all of us have been trained to try and change everyone else (except for self) in the hope that the world will change. What an irony !!

Cheers

Jasmine

Thanks Sojourner.

Hi Sultana

We are lacking some clear boundaries in the relationship here. Perhaps, you could lay out what is negotiable and non-negotiable in this relationship.

Once, your boundaries are clear in your mind, set some time apart to have a heart to heart conversation with your partner. Give him an opportunity to lay out his boundaries. See if you can work through them. If not, you have your answer.

Have the courage to be honest with yourself. When we are honest with self, all decisions become easy and anxiety doesn’t touch us. If we continue to run away from the outcomes as you would like to sit on the fence, you know where life will take you then, yeah ?

You are not responsible for anyone else’s health, happiness, well being or peace. The only person who needs your outmost attention is YOU. I hope you will give YOURSELF a serious chance. Once YOU are ok, I promise, life will never feel burdensome or anxiety prone again 🙂

Blessings,

Jasmine

🙂 Stay well and happy.

Jasmine

Thanks everyone.

Hi Flinn

Thanks for your post and for being so large and kind hearted. May you get the strength to move on past all of this in the very near future and truly enjoy life as how Flinn is meant to.

Loads of positive energy coming your way,

Jasmine

Hi Anonymous

You cant change someone’s perception of you. If someone sees you as an enemy, you cant do much. If someone sees you as a goddess, you cant do much either. Everyone has their own lenses on, through which they see people and these perceptions change with self growth, time etc.

What you can do is be YOU. You are a loving, peaceful and powerful being. Be that.

Love is neither fruitful or destructive. It is just an emotion and everyone feels it differently. You need to just focus on giving yourself the love that you need to get past this incident. No act is foolish or heroic. Our mind makes it either way. We can train our mind to do what we want it to do 🙂

Some people grieve or hurt for a day, some for weeks, some for months and some for ever. But how long we continue this process depends on just us. The choice to move on forward in life is purely in our hands.

Take the best out of this relationship and move forward with your head held high up. Be proud of yourself and what you can offer yourself.

Blessings and may your heart get some peace.

Jasmine

Hey Steve @guitardude

You become what you think about. Pls do not feed your mind this, “I think I am realising is…..I am not giving off the right kind of positive energy that attracts people to me”.

Hey, hard times come and go just like the day and night. Nothing is permanent in this world, is it ? Let go of your limiting beliefs and you will automatically be exuding loads of positivity. It is all in our hands.

Lets hope you give yourself a decent dose of self love and a beautiful companion finds their way to your heart sooner rather than later :). You are not meant to suffer.

Blessings,

J