Hey Hey Patricia

You are doing really well in your circumstances. Hope the good days will come become more frequent than bad days. Can you try to listen to some peppy or up beat music everytime emotions try to take you over in the wrong direction ?

Blessings,

J

Hey Suze, I think you may have misunderstood BenzRabbit’s words but thats ok. Sometimes, when life is not as rosy as it should be, we become prey to our mind, which only seeks out more pain through its own way of interpretating things. When we feel highly charged and positive, other people’s words do not bother us or incite an emotional response.

I have to agree again that you are a very evolved soul stuck in the wrong frame of mind. I mean, how many of us actually come to this realisation that very few people in this world are capable of unconditional love and care. I only learnt this valuable lesson recently but when I did, I was able to let go of all my resentments, anger, hurt etc. I finally realised that we are all imperfect humans but have a capacity to become perfect beings, which we have always been but the mind has made us otherwise.

I have found that the following offer unconditional love and we have a lot to learn from them: dog to his beloved master; Nature – everything in nature is unconditional, unbiased and non-judgemental; some very evolved souls in the form of human beings who have realised the truth; and finally the universal consciousness of which we are all part of.

Why dont we try to become one of that evolved souls and learn from the nature and dogs?

Blessings,

J

Thanks guys.

Hey Breathing77

Thanks for your post. I am going to offer an off the tangent perspective here but it may well work for you. First of all, congrats for taking refuge in Buddha. However, Buddha is not going to come down to help you. He sends people and healers at every junction who guide us along the path to unlimited happiness and unconditional love. I am not a Buddhist personally but I love all gods and god like forms 🙂

Dreams are an extension of us. It is a state when our subconscious mind does what our conscious mind is not able to do while awake. If you are having recurrent but intermittent strong and emotional dreams, your subconscious mind is processing the same issue again and again as it is not able to find a solution to the problem. I guess in your case, it could be some childhood trauma or abuse that you talk about.

Compassion is a great way of solving a lot of things in this world but we also need to be practical when it comes to human psyche. If you can combine some professional form of treatment along with a dose of mindfulness, I believe your healing will be expedited. You have not come into this world to suffer, mate !!!! You have come here to resolve your unresolved issues in the fastest way possible so that you can enjoy the life and its joys 🙂

When we have been traumatised for a long period of time and when we keep holding onto past traumas dear to our heart, our brain undergoes a chemical transformation. This chemical reaction creates a havoc in the rest of the body. Some people notice the physical symptoms quickly while others take a while to manifest diseases or illnesses.

According to eastern medicine, emotional or vivid dreams can often be due to sub optimal liver function and believes that the emotion of “repressed anger” is one of the causes. Unfortunately, Western medicine doesn’t pick up sub-optimal liver function until the disease is advanced and it doesn’t believe that emotions have any effect on our organ functioning. Traditional Chinese Acupuncture in the skilled hands is excellent at correcting energy balances of all the organs in the body and it focusses especially on the liver as it is the powerhouse of the body. Within couple of sessions, you will notice a huge change in your well-being and energy levels. Even your meditation sessions will benefit from this surge of life force energy. It also helps with restful sleep.

Another therapy, which can assist you greatly to erase the unresolved trauma is hypnotherapy. Again, in the right hands, it can provide an excellent resolve for many psychosomatic conditions.

I attach a you tube of a heart chakra meditation, which should go a long way to help you get a good night sleep. It requires only 10 mins of your time before you doze off. Don’t chuck it out until you have tried it at least once. If it works, you can use it nightly.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b05pGueHux8

And lastly, no amount of mindfulness or meditation is going to help us resolve our issues until we are willing to fully let go; forgive ourselves and others for the pain; practice acceptance for our existence and offer unconditional love to self and others. I would like to offer an illustration here and see if it resonates with you at a deeper level. If it does, it will help to bring an instant relief to your worn out mind.

When a bank lends us money for a home mortgage today, it expects us to pay our monthly payments until it the whole sum is paid off over 10-30 years. Suppose we meet up with an accident and leave the body – who is going to repay the Bank ? Well, either one of our relatives if they are the guarantor for the property or the Bank will resell the property to get its money back. The money transaction will balance out by hook or crook so that we owe ZERO to the bank and BANK has 100 percent of the cash it lent us (the balance sheet principle) . Similarly, if we plant a seed of tomato today, in a few weeks time, we will get a tomato plant in its place. There wont be a mango tree in its place, will there ?

Universe works in a similar fashion if you are willing to entertain this idea for a few more minutes. Every action has a reaction – be it in this lifetime that we can remember or a previous one, which we cant remember. Karma and Dharma are based on this principle that everything balances out in this Universe – we get what we sow. God is not responsible for our suffering or circumstances. Just because we cant remember what we have done 50 years ago (perhaps in an another body) doesn’t mean that it did not occur. We often get too attached to all the bad traumas that occur to us in this life. This is all to be blamed on the loss of memory that occurs at birth and we do not recall what we were doing prior to entering the womb – well, some still remember but most of us humble beings do not have any recollection. We take all negative experiences as a self punishment instead of realising that our actions (past or present) have to balance out somewhere. The IN has to = OUT. When this realisation occurs with growing of consciousness, unconditional love starts to become the essence of our life. We realise that hey, we are all one and same and wah lah, all resentment and sorrows leave us and life feels like a joyful ride :).

Does this make sense ?

You will be in my prayers tonight and I hope you will continue to find the help and guidance that you need to continue on this life journey and beyond.

Jasmine

Hey Sue Ann

No, the scenario was not mine. I made it up to see your response. Thanks for your kind words though 🙂 I am sure there are many women out there who have been through this particular scenario – hats off to them.

After reading your response, I do not wish to say much as I think you know what you want. Just got for it rather than wasting more of your precious time on earth contemplating about your feelings and what if situations.

Cheers

Jasmine

Hey Inky – good on you for giving up the cigs 🙂 Yes, have been on the FB, twitter and all types of social media that you can think of and am well aware of the addictive feeling. However, last 2 years without such distractions have been great. My relationships have improved big time and time is more wisely spent on things that need my effort. Best of all, my will power has grown and I am not a slave to the social media anymore 🙂

Thanks Big Blue. Without TV for 13 months – now that is a wow !!

Jasmine – good on you for taking the first step. Your life is worth so much more 🙂

Cheers,

J

Thanks for sharing Sanna @sanna – Just WOW 🙂 I am glad that I posted in here as I got to learn a few things myself.

Hi Miguel / Michaelangelo

Thanks for your post.

You can become a real man once you have sorted your thoughts, feelings and emotions out. From your post, it is clear that you do not think very highly of yourself. Hey, when you do not feel awesome about yourself, is there anyone else in the world who can think otherwise about you ? NO.

Learn to give some respect to yourself.

The changes that you are looking for all start with a simple step of accepting Michaelangelo as he is. Once you accept yourself as you are, you will be able to work on things that need improvement. However, it is important to note that you are a perfect creation of this Universe like all of us. Somewhere along the path from birth till date, you have lost your true essence of existence and become someone else, who is not happy in his own skin, yeah ?

Please be mindful that talking, ruminating, complaining, whining etc are all easy way out. To make a lasting positive change, we need to take an action, which is consistent and focussed. I will provide a simple list of things that you can engage in to flip your life around for the better. You sound like a young soul so take it easy 🙂

1. Be kind to yourself. Show some respect for self and for your parents who have brought such a beautiful creature into this world. Think of some lovely things to tell yourself each day no matter how small they are.

2. For bad hygiene issue, you can start with baby steps of looking after your physical appearance: Have daily showers, brush your teeth twice daily, use perfume or cologne, change to fresh clothing everyday, get into the habit of doing laundry 2-3 times a week if you do not have enough clothes to last you a week, shaving facial hair as required etc. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to look good or feel good. When you feel good, you look good !!!!

2. Gynaecomastia – is there a medical reason for this condition or it is just man boobs you are talking about ? If it is just some flab, exercise and good nutrition should do the trick for you. Begin with cardio – 20 mins of running, cross training, rowing or jogging 2-3 times a week and add some weights into the programme when you have crossed the 4th week mark. You can target the chest muscles or you can work on every muscle of the body when you commence weights. You can ask a personal trainer for a session to help you out with this or you can check out the you tube on how to tone “pectoral muscles”.

3. Laziness – Start with some goal setting such as: include exercising in your schedule; feed your body good nutrition atleast 3-4 times a week; work on positive thinking by practicing positive affirmations and reading articles on same; offer gratitude daily; work on home work from Uni or school daily rather than leave it until the last minute etc.

4. No girls / dependent / immature – Being immature and dependent is not a good combination for attracting a good girl into your life. Getting a GF should be your last priority. Focus on your well being first. If you are healthy physically, mentally, emotionally and financially, getting a girl wont be too hard. However, it is not all about getting a girl. You should aim to find a good partner, who will complement you and your values so that you can both grow together in life.

5. Hunched back – is often due to prolonged poor posture (I am assuming that you do not have an underlying bony or muscular congenital abnormalities). Learn to sit straight with your bottom close to the end of the chair at the back. Again, there are you tube videos that can teach you to sit properly. There are various posture correction exercises that you can engage in and getting help from a physiotherapist on this will be the most beneficial. It takes a lot of effort to get your posture correct so have patience.

6. All the qualities that you are looking for should come easy once you can take some actions in the first 5 categories. It all starts with an action. Take baby steps and over the next 1-2 years, you should be able to turn your life around for the better. Money, cars and success will follow if you can get a good education (either trade based or Uni based) so work on that as well.

Good luck.

Jasmine

Thanks everyone

Hey Breathing77

What an amazing journey you have had 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

J