Hi Zita,

I am sorry that you have had to read such a post from another TB fellow. Pls dont let it create any negativity in your heart. There is a lot of beauty in the world and you just focus on that.

Lots of love,

J

Thanks Allison.

Listen to your inner guidance and follow your heart. You wont go wrong ever 🙂

Have a fab day ahead

J

Thanks Luna.

Hi M

This is 007 😉

Congrats on getting your fitness back and recovering from your injury. Many people never get to recover from their injuries and go on to live with regrets for the rest of their lives. You are a lucky woman !!

I am not sure what sports or team work mean for you personally. For me, it is about getting better each day, being the best I can be at what I do with whole heart and helping my team achieve its goal. It has never been about competition with others or what others may think about me. There is only one of you in this world. Even if your parents wanted to create another M, they wont succeed. You are as unique as it gets, which means you are as special as anyone else in this world. So where is the competition, pride, fear, failure etc ? It is unfortunately all in our heads.

So tell your mind to bugger all and go back to your sport (only if you love it and have passion for it). If you dont have passion for something then it is a lot harder to convince the mind or the physical body to help us out.

Count your lucky stars and get on with life. One of the local state rugby player (who is only 22) down under was declared a quadriplegic yesterday post a nasty tackle few days ago – his life will never be the same again but I know he will come around and make the best of what life has dealt him. Whats stopping you ?

J

Hi

I will share my thoughts here with you. Not sure if they will resonate with you today or not as you may be feeling quite overwhelmed. Perhaps you can come back to them in a week or so when things are calmer.

Love doesnt live alongside conflict. So if someone is creating a conflict in your head or life, you need to sit down and work out as to the cause for that conflict. Life is not a bed of roses but it is not a bed of thorns either. Whatever we give out, we receive in amplified quantities.

Simplify your life and show some compassion for self. You will find the answers to all your dilemmas and issues within yourself then. There is no one in this world who can get you out of your negative state of mind except for yourself.

Sending you heaps of positive energy and may you find the strength to love yourself.

Jasmine

Hi Jo

Thanks for your post and congrats for your mindfulness journey.

I will share my experience, which may or may not resonate with you but I am sure you will hear from other TB members on this topic as it is quite thought provoking.

– not everyone wants to be on the soul consciousness, self realisation or mindfulness journey. Everyone has their own reasons – some known and some unknown.

– help works the most when it is asked for and even then, some help may resonate with some people and some may not. Everyone is on their own journey. Unwanted help or advice often falls onto deaf ears.

– our words, actions, feelings and thoughts produce a vibration (energy), which has the capacity to reach the other person much faster than any email, mail, words etc. When our intention is pure and produces positive vibrations, even the worst criticism will appear as a divine or melodious music to someone’s ears. If the intention is wrong, even the most beautiful compliment will backfire and produce a conflicting response from the other individual. You can try this on your own.

– we cant fight with someone else’s ego or defences. However, we can try to act out our most authentic self and “walk the talk”. If you wish to nurture someone with your compassion, do so but without any expectations or use of logic mind. For eg, Telling your co worker that he is smart and competent is great. However, then using your logic mind to reason out as to why he seeks more praise and approval (or your praising him leads him to want more of the same from others) defeats the purpose. He is he and you are you. By showing your compassion and love to him, you have shown your beautiful side. Leave it at that.

– we can help the people most when we are our authentic self, that is we accept who we are as we are…..and in the process, we are also acknowledging that we accept people the way they are without any questions asked. And trust me, when you do this with a pure intention, your positive vibrations will do all the work for you in helping that person become more secure or centered. Energy flows from high to low level.

– other ways of sharing your love and compassion is to offer prayers for these people while you meditate. Universe listens to all our prayers, which are not conflicting in nature.

Does this make sense ?

Jasmine

Thanks Sufi and The Ruminant for your kindness. I had a huge and beaming smile on my face after reading your words.

Thanks The Ruminant and Prabha for your excellent suggestions :).

When my spiritual teacher found me a few years ago, these were the 2 things, which were imparted to me : you are 100 percent responsible for everything that happens in your life; and you be the book and you be the reader. Being who I was at the time, I took these words of wisdom as “total crap” and found it hard to assimilate.

After regular and devoted practice of mindfulness over the last 2 years atleast, these words have started to resonate with my being and now, they are part of who I am. The right kind of Meditation helps us to find all the wisdom that is contained within us. We all have the power to dive into our own inner world to find the solutions to all our dilemmas, which are unique to us and us alone. What it takes is regular and devoted practice and unfortunately, there is no end to this learning. We will never graduate from this life school until we die and after that god knows ;).

Cheers,

J

Hi Sufi

Thanks for your post. I would like to share my experience with you and hope it will provide a different perspective for you.

I must have read over 150 self-help books few years ago to start the journey that you wish to commence now and none actually helped in the long term. Everyone is providing their own personal experience in the books but we are not them. Everyone on this planet is one and unique. Our thoughts, personalities, DNA, coping skills etc do not coincide with anyone else on this planet. We are as unique as it gets. What might work for your mate may not work for someone else. This is the reason why giving or seeking advice is sought with so much caution as one can only provide their personal opinion but it may or may not be suitable for the concerned individual.

I do refer to some books on a regular basis such as those from Louise Hay, Susan Jeffers and Cheryl Davidson but it is purely to calm me down if I am being highly emotionally charged. The following have been the most helpful in terms of practicality : regular practice of meditation( heaps of good stuff on you tube); practicing gratitude and positive affirmations daily ; breathing exercises; good nutrition; 8 hour sleep ; and exercise. I am becoming more authentic “me” every day. Now, people do not threaten me as I am able to appreciate that hey, everyone is unique so there is no competition. There is no resentment and we are all doing our best to perform our role on the life stage. It is all good and there is enough for everyone on this planet. This transformation has made a huge change in the people that I attract nowadays. I am able to learn freely from every interaction and relationships do not feel heavy or draining anymore.

Does this make sense ?

Cheers,

J