I’m not sure you like the strong version of Jack. he may be kinda bossy, dismissive and self-righteous. 🙂
OK, humble elaboration to follow”
I think we need to respect others. Now if their behaviour is starting to annoy us, better to say something early, or just avoid them. Better not to say something in anger. it may sound powerful in our heads when rehearsing to “tell someone off” but it is in fact immature. I think we have to treat some people like children. Arrogance I liken to childishness. Competitiveness too. People who have to have the last word, who can’t see the bigger picture, because they all get caught up in ego.
There are situations which require confidence and decisiveness. I don’t say I’m good at this yet but I’m not afraid to give it a go.
This post is rather illogical isn’t it.
Humility and courage are something I aspire to. Humility is sometimes digging deep to find the right words to say to people. That the first words that come to mind are usually the wrong ones. Humility is admitting we don’t have all the answers but we are still going to try to live life courageously.
Sorry I haven’t quite gelled my ideas yet on this, anita.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 3 months ago by jock.

thanks anita and triangle
My writing is improving I agree. You know if you post often enough, sooner or later you will say something that makes sense. 🙂
anita, the part about humble is an interesting one. I don’t see a need to be necessarily humble to other people. We need to be humble enough to find the right words to say at the right time, without anger or hatred. “I’m sorry but I don’t like the way you just spoke to me.It sounds sarcastic. What do you mean?” this kind of language is thoughtful without being knee-jerk reactionary. Staying in the moment, not trying to score points, just clearing the air so you don’t accumulate unfinished business in your head.