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  • August 19, 2015 at 5:26 am in reply to: To stay or to go..? Feeling lost. #82011
    jock
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    If you don’t mind me saying, you sound kind of confused at the moment with so many options in your life.
    I’d say work out exactly how much money you need to do what you want to do most. Then work out how you are going to save it. So the finance side is important I guess if you want the feeling of independence. Possibly the barista job for a while, then reassess in 3 months?

    August 19, 2015 at 5:20 am in reply to: Can't fit into the team #82010
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    Hey I hear you ’cause I don’t fit in with my team either. Sounds like the job doesn’t suit you at all. Can you just quit and find another?
    As for lunch time, I dread having lunch with my workmates. Listen to more of their crap? No thanks.

    May 30, 2014 at 5:31 pm in reply to: Acceptance and Truth in Love #57751
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    Try to value this time without a partner. A long time alone can be hugely beneficial in my view.

    May 30, 2014 at 3:22 pm in reply to: I'm a failed ex-teacher #57737
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    thanks ruminant. have considered tutoring but may lack confidence/passion for that unfortunately. Have studied counselling recently. Might go down that path. Life is not too bad though. How is your future looking?

    May 29, 2014 at 2:12 pm in reply to: Self Compassion #57649
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    This is my first year of teaching but I am finding it hard to be self compassionate towards myself.

    I’m an ex teacher and I can tell you my first year was a nightmare. Give yourself a break. Sounds like you are setting yourself very high standards. Chill!

    May 28, 2014 at 6:41 pm in reply to: Meaning of Life #57602
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    My parents never asked nor tried to answer such a question. Am I more spiritual than them for doing so?
    Absolutely not.
    Ask and seek the meaning of life but do it in a humble way. To arrive at my deathbed with no hate in my heart and to be full of gratitude. All I do now should be towards that goal.
    Can I just say that I think we overdo the “here and now” concept? Maybe we need a fresher way of expressing it.

    May 28, 2014 at 6:31 pm in reply to: Your stories ?! #57601
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    I tend to attract people who love talking about themselves. I have always struggled with an addiction to politeness, in asserting my right to interrupt or say I have something to do in order to escape. OK, well I can be narcissstic as well sometimes but that is usually online to compensate for my real life persona.

    May 28, 2014 at 6:26 pm in reply to: What does it really mean to have passion for something? #57600
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    I tend to go through fads and mini addictions but nothing has become a lifetime obsession.
    I’ve learnt guitar to high beginner level but lack the discipline, fortitude, drive and “passion” to go to the next level.
    Similar with writing, psychology, philosophy, meditation, my current job, ..
    the upside is that I have been able to quit addictions such as smoking, heavy drinking, gambling.

    May 28, 2014 at 6:17 pm in reply to: Finding True Purpose/Niche in Life #57597
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    Jasmine, a hard act to follow:)
    I think we all have to experience life, ie. get out there and fail and come to our own conclusions as to where we belong. Our niche changes during our life too. I’m 56 and still struggling with self-awareness so don’t expect to have all the answers soon.Sounds like I am in a similar field to you. My advice is “yes help people but always keep some humour about it and maintain detachment for the sake of your own mental health” (pretty much what Jasmine said). My conclusion is, that there is no ideal job out there, just a handful of options that may suit us at a certain point in our lives. Try to meet your trials and tribulations with patience and kindness to yourself. That is something I am still learning myself.

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    May 28, 2014 at 5:59 am in reply to: Hhelp me have better relationships with women #57558
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    I do tend to make a mountain out of a molehill as well; it must be said. 🙂
    Thanks for your replies.

    May 28, 2014 at 5:55 am in reply to: Hhelp me have better relationships with women #57556
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    esp if they do not have higher education or high level jobs

    very true

    May 28, 2014 at 5:51 am in reply to: Hhelp me have better relationships with women #57554
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    The combination of fear, not liking yourself and treating women as women first and human beings second can come across in a terrible way. I know you don’t mean it that way, and I do feel for you.

    Ouch…sad but true..thanks for your post ruminant. Guess I can be overpolite, a bit stiff (oops bad choice of word 🙂

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    May 28, 2014 at 5:46 am in reply to: Hhelp me have better relationships with women #57552
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    Wow Jasmine..I feel like you know exactly what is going on at my workplace!! Brilliant post!
    That almost brought me to tears! 🙂

    May 28, 2014 at 1:46 am in reply to: Hhelp me have better relationships with women #57538
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    @tsuki said:
    Reflect on this – The mouth can already have a sweet/bitter/neutral taste and how it perceives the taste of food could depend on that. My question is – if the mouth is already bitter, will it be fully able to grasp sweetness in the food? Or is the food actually bitter?

    If you are satisfied with your answer, consider this – what is perception per say? Is perception really reality or a segment of it? What are you more afraid of – being a fool or being perceived as a fool?

    The first part reminds me of a scene with Grasshopper in the TV series Kung Fu.
    Part 2:
    “Being perceived as a fool by you for not understanding your post..” is my answer. 🙂

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    May 28, 2014 at 1:42 am in reply to: Hhelp me have better relationships with women #57537
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    the ruminant
    Thanks for your reply. Call me oversensitive but I sense some hostility already. Because I used the word “disrespect”? Is that condescending?
    I don’t really want to go into details as that would be confidential.
    But I think women do like to be treated as women first and human beings second. Could be my brainwashing and the fact I grew up in a strict religious environment with 9 brothers and no sisters.

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