Anita,

i feel a lot of shame because I realize how many issues I have now because of the abuse in my marriage and I came off desperate with the short term guy.  I’m starting to get my head around the fact that he might have took advantage of me and just got what he wanted.  I put up with a lot of rude treatment.  I’m starting to think he is not a good person and I want to tell him this but I don’t think that’s a good idea. I have anxiety and was just diagnosed with bipolar spectrum meaning my highs and lows are not major and don’t meet the basic criteria.  So I have a lot of shame with my mental illness too.  I think I was manic when I flirted with him and pursued him.  My mania is anxiety attacks, irritability, poor boundaries.   Then I got obsessive thoughts about him and felt insecure and really anxious.