Thank you anita,

I knew this day was going to come and I am happy that I am strong enough to tell him that ship has sailed. I will never be able to trust his word. I decided to dig for the truth from him. He supposed fling with the other girl was not a fling at all. In fact, he introduced her to his whole family. This makes me believe that he did not end it with her, she did. And now he is crawling back to me. In truth, I will never know because he is NOT an honest person. I will never know his motives, and I will also never know what would happen in the future when another woman entered his life.

I think my problems with this break up stem from the fact that I was so sure that he was the one. I had never dated anyone that I had so much in common with and felt so comfortable around. Even my friends and family said that they had never seen me so comfortable and happy. I think it’s difficult for me to look into the future and think about finding someone with that level of compatibility. I guess my hope is to find the compatibility again but also find someone who is mature enough to take blame for their wrongdoing.

Hello everyone,

I have used the past month or so to do some healing. I have had no contact with the man I was dumped by. I am proud of myself that I have been so strong. We share mutual friends and I heard that he has been talking about me. He told my friend that he misses me and apparently is an emotional mess. Is it silly for me to think about reaching out to him? If he wanted me, wouldnt he contact me first? Is he just manipulative and is telling my friends what they want to hear? Did things not work out with the other girl? He has remained adamant that this is still about me reading his text messages. Any advice would help.

He came and got his things while I was away over the weekend. Didn’t leave a note didn’t say anything just took his stuff and left. I think with this really teaches me is that you don’t really know someone until things get hard. Up until this moment we had never had a fight or disagreement.

I have read what you said over and over just to try to make sense of things. No matter how many friends, family members, and strangers on the internet tell me that this is not my fault, I keep the blame on myself. Maybe I am putting too much emphasis on the “what could have been” if I didn’t look in the phone and had communicated my suspicions to him directly.

The feelings of guilt are so strong. I feel completely responsible for ruining my relationship. I feel like I hurt someone that I love and it’s tearing me apart.