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MarkParticipantShannon, I don’t think you need to “improve” it for yourself. I think this culture view crying as a sign of weakness. I see it as another outlet of emotion like laughter. I would say like with any emotion you notice is to BE with it. Allow it. Don’t push it down or away. It’s a part of you that is wanting to express itself.
Metta,
MarkMarkParticipantI have mild tinnitus.
Here’s an informational link on the subject
http://www.ohsu.edu/xd/health/services/ent/services/tinnitus-clinic/tinnitus_facts.cfmTake care.
MarkMarkParticipantNorma,
My experience is that our children learn by example. They look at their parents to see how to behave.
I have a daughter who grew up with her mother who is/was controlling.
Guess what? She only knows how to have relationships with guys who are controlling.
He cannot have her out of his sight. She felt she had to be texting him while she was at her grandmother’s funeral.
She cannot be just with her family without feeling the need to respond to his phone calls and texts every 5 minutes (no exaggeration).
She wants to be with me and her brother but really cannot because she feels she has to answer to her controlling boyfriend.I hope that helps you get some insight on the potential consequences.
Metta,
MarkMarkParticipantHi Norma,
I like what the Dalai Lama said, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”
Start with that simple thing. I recommend working on being mindful so you remember to practice compassion.
Like any new behavior you want to have, you need to keep practicing so it will become a habit.
Feel free to contact me directly for any more support.
Metta,
Mark
mark@markwillhelp.comMarkParticipantHi Evelyn,
First, I am sending you light and love your way.
Second, beyond what the others have posted, I want to offer you my support and feel free to email me.
Third, it sounds like you are “locked up” in your fear and anxiety and do not have any space to really tap into your heart to know what you really want. I would think you would feel more “settled” once you decide that you just need to work at *something* until you get some routine, structure, and money to get that space to reflect and hear your heart a bit better.Metta,
Mark
mark@markwillhelp.comMarkParticipantCharlotte,
First of all I’m sending you HUGZ and light energy.Second, I recommend to just breathhhhhhhhhh. The breath really does help in settling the physiology and emotions.
Third, I find meditation as a good practice regardless what you are going through.
Fourth, I also find that just sitting with my negative emotions (fear, anxiety, anger, etc.) helps to be with myself better and those emotions eventually dissipate. It can be hard to do that for, like meditation, it can be hard not to think but to allow the negative emotions to be fully felt and (eventually) pass through us. This can be part or separate from your meditation.
Fifth, we all fuck up. The “trick” is to be compassionate with ourselves and to know that we have gained experience and wisdom so we can choose differently next time. Judging ourselves really puts us into this loop (as you are now experiencing it) of self recrimination and punishment. Labeling is part of that judging thing.
Sixth, feel free to contact me for further support.
Namaste’, Ubuntu, and Metta,
Mark
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