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  • in reply to: Trouble in paradise? #193255
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    Mark- I’m 17 he’s 18 and yes I have never met him in real life.  By clingy and needy I mean when he is with me I like it if he would talk to me when we are together. If he is away yes I may call him bc his notifications are on to let him know I’m awake or back etc bc he said to do so but when he is away I just miss him etc I don’t spam him unless he’s online bc I’m just annoying like that and he said he doesn’t care he thinks it’s funny.

    JRM-I believe you are right that I should take a step back. I jump into frivolous relationships but most of the time this happens as the guy has confessed to me. I never confess first but they do. And I feel bad rejecting them bc most likely they are my best friends which is the problem with girl boy friendships especially online. Are you saying to leave and gather myself? Or stay find out who he is and if he’s right for me?

    in reply to: Ex has come back. #193015
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    Thanks! I wasn’t sure what to do as I’m quite the forgiving person. But you’re totally right!

    Thanks xx

    in reply to: One minute I love them, the next i don't… #184569
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    Thank you so much Anita, i feel as if i have a better understanding of myself, i really appreciate it.

     

     

    in reply to: One minute I love them, the next i don't… #184557
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    And yes Anita you are correct.

    in reply to: One minute I love them, the next i don't… #184555
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    Thank you to everyone, for helping me. I have been struggling to understand why i am the way i am, and your comments have really helped to understand a bit more about myself. I really do thank you!!

    in reply to: One minute I love them, the next i don't… #184485
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    Thank you Eliana, I’m so sorry for what you have been through, and i could never understand that feeling. I have had a lack of interaction with men, not related to me. So perhaps you are right, it’s the fear of love, the thing i lack and the thing i’m most unfamiliar with. Trust issues, being unable to trust if that person means what they say, what are they thinking about, and the feeling of being abandoned by that one influential person. I was unintentionally hurt as a child by a young growing boy, and as you can tell i hope you know where i am going with this.. From what i remember he never actually did anything, though i remember the feeling of being kissed and touched. That horrible, disgusting feeling. So maybe from that experience, i am scared of men deep down, maybe i do not know this, but my conscious does, and that is what controls my distance self….I dunno…

    in reply to: Beating Myself up Again #184481
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    I am no expert, but i am sure you are a lovely and caring person. From what i have read, (this is the only way i can figure out the type of person you are implying to be) so far you are good enough for anyone, no one is not good enough. Humans think something what they are doing is “stupid” or “bad” which gives us a sense of insecurity. In fact, its all in your head, this sense of you are doing everything wrong is all in your head, no one would think you are not worth him, and i am pretty sure he doesn’t feel the same way either. This is linked to appearance, humans can sometimes believe that their appearance should be spot on, which doesn’t allow them to fully live, such as me. I think everyone is watching me, secretly talking about my attire or body shape, which makes me very insecure. But again its in my head, no body cares what i’m doing, they are probably more worried if they left the stove on, ya know. I know this is irrelevant to what you are saying and asking for, but its all the same. Never think you are a crappy girlfriend, unless your physically hurting him that is., bc i am sure you are a lovely woman, which is why he loves you and stays by your side. Though, if you think you are a “crappy” gf then do something about it, get on your feet, tell him how you feel, be open with him, ask him what he wants, not only will this hopefully help you gain some more confidence in yourself, but it will improve your relationship. I am sorry if this didn’t help, or if i blabbered on too much, just please don’t treat yourself like you’re not worth it, bc girl you are, you are totally worth it!

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