Dear Anita,

Yes you are alright.. i thought so… i thought my husband also a good guy..

About gift giving actually first time i thought that is his love language.. i mean he never give me surprise. So he bought something that i know.. he just surprise me that he said he will buy it for me for example. he mostly bought some of my dream stuff.. such as set of serial books, bags, phone that i wanted the most, and even its food without i asking or begging him to buy it for me.. when i feel in badmood, he will always give me advice to buy some good food.. even if that time i just need and want his hug..

Sometimes i feel confused.. i think everyone can buy stuff for his girlfriend right? So that girlfriend will allways be with him.. i such a different.. i don’t know why.. how many times he give me some gifts.. the feels of happiness just stand for some days.. and after that i feel like i forgot.. sometimes when i look at stuff that he bought to me, i feel blessed.. but you know.. that feeling not last forever..

Or maybe i was wrong.. I’m the only one too exaggerated about his negativity or his lack.. i wanna to change and wanna stop worrying about his feeling..

And about act of service. I dont know much about this actually.. but sometimes he helping me with the dishes, helping me when i cooking, sometimes he help to clean the bathroom..  and he loves me to always put dish on his plate and give to him.. i don’t know.. is that sign that he want me to show act of service?

And this is something that cross my head now.. honestly it’s really hard to not looking at his chat.. and yesterday i just saw only 1 chat.. from his woman colleague.. different from colleague that first time i told you.. so the story is : when my husband post our wedding photo. Then i look her comment. she said something about me.. she said “poor tania”. I don’t know whats that mean..? And why she said like that.. could you tell me something inside your mind about this..? Am i too sensitive now..?

Dear Anita,

Replying about 2 point..

1.) I don’t know why, i cant remember what he likes from me.. because he never told me anything about my physical look except said that i look more fat in joke i mean.. but i’ve ask him why he never give me any compliment about my physical look, he said because i’m beautiful and he knows it..

2.) I’ll tried it.. but he is not easy to  persuated by the way. 🙁

Dear Anita,

Yes u are alright.. my doctor said i should take a rest that means totally on my bed.. luckyly my baby growning up in my belly 🙂

Btw Anita.. can i ask something out of the box…? I don’t know why i still keep thinking about it…

Long time ago before we getting merried, i always remember my husband as a hot kisser. His kiss is deep and make me so in love with it.. but i don’t know since what time,he changed his style… i just can remember the moment before we merried, he’s already changed. honestly, we have a deal that “we will not get sex until we formally merried”. But i don’t know.. is that influence his behavior before and after merried?

I really realize it when we are in merried routine… He always kiss me so short and never deep again even when i ask him to and choose to touch me at the sensitive part instead..

Is this normal in merried life..?

Sorry for asking like this.. because i don’t  know whom trusted to ask the question like this.. and this thought always fly in my brain.. and the memories about his hot kiss still in my brain and i want it back..

Dear Anita,

I’ll answer ur question..

1. This is unplanned pregnancy. I mean we always waiting for the baby but we didn’t know that the time is now and with this situation that i have some symptoms..

My husband happy when he knew that i pregnant. But he also worried because doctor said about the threat of miscarriage…

And about my colleague behaviour.. actually i haven’t told him yet because i think he will also confuse and don’t want me to think about it a lot..

2. Doctor said.. i need to take a rest totally and look for next week. Is the baby seen in usg and is the baby evolve..

I really worried about this all..

Dear Anita,

I’ll try to stop looking at his phone.. actually i have progress for myself.. since i know that he chated with his colleague, i tried to not looking or spying on his phone (less then before)..

I hope after this case, i can stop doing that bad habbit.. i will try to trust him more..

After this, he will go to the office as usual.. actually first time when i heard that, i feel so mess.. i feel that darkness, jealousy come up again.. but i tried to still calm down and think.. “I hope he will keep distance from that woman, not really close to her and he always remember me as his wife & his promise too..”

Then for now.. i really try to think as good as i can..

Sometimes i still remember when he chat with her.. it’s feel so hurt.. why he give attention to that woman.. i still struggle to forget about it…

Dear Anita,

If u didn’t understand about facebook etc its okay anita.. let me explain about my thought.. i just didn’t understand and curious. Why is third party send “her post about feeling” to my husband.

Thanks anita for undestanding me.. i hope someday i can be like u.. can transform wisely.

For now, in my side, 9 AM. He work at home because of office’s policy bout corona pandemic. And i still go to work because my office haven’t announce any policy bout corona.

Thank you anita

Dear anita,

Its not her that sent the article. But. She post the article on her social media. Then, their colleague(another person), send that feed to my husband.

The article said : keep distance from someone you love. Because that person love someone else.

Thank you anita

Dear Anita,

May i ask about my projected feeling..?

This day i saw his colleague send my husband, her post that repost from article that wrote inside “sosial relationship : keep distance from someone you like. Because that human’s heart is not for u”

I just asking myself.. why his colleague sent him that post..? Is that because he like her but she didn’t like him. This dark side come up again… my breath feel hard and i feel hurt.. i don’t want him to like someone else.. i know its selfish, i cant control this..

Thank you anita