Dear Barbara,
now with 2 days of distance, I’m sure you already feel that you can get up again.
Or maybe you are still going down deep in a well of grief and making yourself feeling guilty or….

I deeply believe that all our relationships in life are the mirror of the relationships we have with ourselves.
How do you feel about that?

When I read you words, many things resonate with me.

Before, I didn’t realize that my lack of self-esteem was making him also doubt himself. That my needy moments were making him feel I am doubting about our relationship… and that me doubting was exactly what was keeping it from being a FULL-filled experience between two beings that join forces to create the life that they most desire.

I wanted to share with you the best advice I have ever had about keeping a relationship:The best gift you can give your partner is to be a woman who loves herself.

Invest in yourself. Don’t expect for him to give you what you need. Only you can give yourself what you need.

To live a couple life is a choice. Clearly a choice.

We have chosen and we are stubborn: we can only be stubborn or else it won’t work.

Most of the time we are busy with everything else, most of the time it’s hard to meet and enjoy. But I see it like that: we are a team – we have decided to partner in the most amazing team ever to create our lives together.

It’s so so important that we support each other… and you know how I do it?

I support myself first.

Because I have found out that everything I need is in me. And what a terrible mistake it is to be expecting from him to bring me all those things that are: confidence, calm, happiness, positive thinking…

I love his way not being my way.

We speak very different love languages. I want to talk about everything all the time, I want to be cuddling all the time and sometimes I just need my time alone. He goes and fixes everything in the house, cooks for us everyday, brings me things he knows (or thinks) I love and it’s his way to tell me how much he thinks about me.

I am in wonder and thankful for our relationship every minute that passes by.

I always realize how much we learn together, how much we grew, how much we have this telepathic understanding. I am so thankful for all these little details that make our life. I know that it is not perfect. I used to be afraid of the boredom, the routine. I actually have changed my mind. I started to find it as really confortable rituals that we did naturally that indeed do our home.

I hope this helps,
Love
M

What I have found is that whatever I do to get into creative flow mode can be explained in a very simple routine:

I warm-up my playfulness – it can be to put some music up and dance, make word games with what everyone says or try to get that piece of paper right into the basket from a challenging distance

Open space for creativity – breathe, meditate, go for a walk in the woods, be silent, listen.

Make sure my space for creating is clear and ready for a successful creating session – it really plays with my mood to have clear space will I be writing, drawing or training… creation space is sacred, and easy to keep clean and with positive energy if we just remember that it is a sacred task to declutter it. I ,for example, dedicate 5 minutes a day and it works very well for me.

Make sure I won’t be interrupted – as a mother and host of a house that never stops with people coming in and out (I’m proud and thankful of my busy social life! But there must be sacred balance!) I just am not shy to ask my beautiful soulmate to take over for a while on kids and friends OR make sure everyone is happy and busy in activities OR schedule in my creation time in times that I know I’ll have peace and quiet (funny side note: while I was writing this post, I had my 3 year old daughter and her friend emptying the whole closet. So also, to be flexible if your scheduling strategies don’t work PERFECT and just work around it – also good piece of advice)

Spread the love, M