It makes me feel deeply uncomfortable,  something inside my belly feels not nice! And it makes me feel awkward, i find it difficult then to make further conversation. And i feel guilty that I’ve ruined their mood or made them upset or offended. I’d honestly rather just agree even if its going to ruin it for me!

Hi  thanks for replying, both replies are really thoughtful and have gave me a lot to think about 🥰 I do get stressed out being around people too long, at the minute I dont have a choice though because I share a house with my sister. It is definitely getting on top of me not having my own space though. I think my parents relationship probably has a lot to do with it, though I hadn’t looked at it from the perspective that I’m behaving the same way as my dad but now that its been said, it really is exactly the same thing! I think my fear of going with my friend instead of my sister is because i just dont want to make my sister feel worse than she already does! I definitely need to work on being more assertive, i had been trying to do that a while ago but i just fall into old habits… I didn’t realize that assertiveness was the same as this… I’m definitely too passive! I’m going to try and work on that, thanks guys, appreciate your help loads!

I will do, I’ll think it over some more and get back to you! Thanks very much 🙂

Hi Anita,

Thanks for getting back to me! Yes nothing has changed in the relationship that I can Put my finger on but I have felt recently that he’s lost interest as well, although our full relationship has been in lockdown pretty much so we have been with each other 24/7 but not able to actually do anything. I also don’t know if what I think is loss of interest is actually just my brain telling me things are wrong? I’m struggling to distinguish between what’s really happening and what I think is happening, which is crazy.

My parents relationship is rubbish! They’re not married but still together. My mum is quite abusive towards my dad and brings him down to nothing at any chance she gets. She done the same with my sister and I growing up, she’s also financially dependent on my dad as she doesn’t work even though she has no reason not to and she does nothing to help around the house, she’s basically like another child! I don’t live with them anymore and don’t get on with my mum! I wish my dad would leave her