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The Buddha absolutely forgives you, blank. The mind is a tool that we have to work with and for the most of us we make ourselves a slave of our mind without even knowing it and in times of deep fear and anxiety, it takes over and troubles you. You are not your mind or those thoughts that are troubling you, blank. As Anita said a counsellor will be able to help you calm your fears and anxiety and fixing the root cause can make this go away.
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April 7, 2016 at 9:17 pm in reply to: Internet debate gone horribly wrong – trauma, ruined conscience #101231humourParticipantMy heart goes out to you Mete. Like Vesper said, internet makes everything big. People just rip others apart. Not that these people are bad, its just the way the world is and the majority of them are nice and they understand sooner or later but mob mentality is a dangerous thing. Its just that some people can handle it while introverts find it hard I guess; when they get targeted. I am not rationally embarrassed for what I said and to this day I do not understand what was in it that made people react the way they did and call all sorts of names and labels. Inky, sometimes there are some people you meet quite regularly and you know they’ve read the post, they just don’t know its you and its quite hard. Lets face it, no matter what our opinions are, no one is born with an anti-shaming circuitry in the brain. If its one-to-one, you can explain or if you get shamed by 10 people you can explain, but on the internet, communication is difficult. People can twist your opinions and project their own mind and then put the blame on the original poster when the original poster has nothing to do with it. An internet forum is the last thing you would worry about in life, but you never know what life has in store for you until it shows up!
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humourParticipantThanks Inky. I hope to find a specialist because I am a little worried about the safety/adverse events. My Chi is probably all over the place lol:D
humourParticipantHi Joe,
May be you would like ‘cave in the snow’ by Tenzin Palmo.humourParticipantDear Ravi,
I really hope you get through this phase and also wish you the best for your exams! Hats off to Anita for supporting you even if its just by writing to you! Take care
humourParticipantEach one is at a different stage in their life/evolution and so its best to take another’s opinion with a pinch of salt – not blame them/yourself for being/not being better. Also, like Inky said, sometimes communities could attract extremists – my guess is maybe these people just want to vent or maybe feel accepted by the community although it comes across as otherwise. That’s how I feel but who knows..
Also, if we can find like minded friends/groups with similar goals and friends who can help us become better then it works out to be really wonderful.
humourParticipantHi Ankur,
Thank you so much for taking the time out to reply and for pointing out that we need to make an effort to really understand our own bodies in order to figure out what works for us. It has been a while since I visited this site so I apologize for a delayed response. I really appreciate your reply and it wasn’t in anyway long or overwhelming. Is there any way you can help me out or point to something or someone I can visit? Is there a way I can correspond with you? Thank you once again!- This reply was modified 8 years, 7 months ago by humour.
humourParticipantThank you Viraj! I will definitely consider the intake of Aloe Vera/amla juice at least a few days a week. Inky, your words hit the spot and I will try my best to control my cravings for sugar and other things. It drives me nuts sometimes:) I will keep trying though. Dear TriangleSun, I’ve been accustomed to a vegetarian diet all my life, hence it will be tough to change it but egg is something I can give a try. I definitely agree about not ending up eating huge meals. Thank you for such a comprehensive reply:) It really helps.
humourParticipantI agree with you Anita. Psychotherapy and meditation can help to change the pathways in the brain.Thank you for taking the time out to reply. 🙂 Thank you for your words dear Amanda. Tons of wisdom in your post. Really appreciate it! Nekoshema, I hope and pray that you find your calling. Its helpful to remind oneself to keep fear in check and be consciously aware that it is only temporary. Thank you for your reply:)
humourParticipantHey thanks Wendy 🙂 didn’t know about cluedo. I ve played or heard of the rest.
humourParticipantHi Joe,
I personally loved painting on tile and glass. I guess I had also used M seal to create designs on the tile. Once the m seal dried , I would on it. I am not great at painting but tile and glass painting was interesting and relatively simpler. Also, I ve tried painting simple floral designs on table cloths. I was good painting within boundaries never good with free style. My anxiety regarding painting finally reduced when I started learning wet on wet painting and now I like to paint:) have fun! 🙂humourParticipantHehe no problem Anita 🙂 That’s true Joe. I too lose interest and with technology so readily available these days, I ve forgotten how simple were the days when we would have fun playing with friends. I felt like maybe I can involve friends and perhaps family to play board games and see how it turns out.And I agree jigsaw puzzles are calming.
Ooo thanks Vikie, I ll look up these if I can order on the Internet.
humourParticipantPraying helps me as well. These videos by Ajahn Brahm, a Buddhist monk are very nice and he is very witty as well. Happy New year to everyone and may all of us release past pains and usher in new hopes and joys 🙂
humourParticipantThe Best Christmas Gift
By Joseph J. MazzellaThe best Christmas gift I ever got was both early and late. My first born child came into this world on December 16th, nine days before Christmas. He was supposed to be a Thanksgiving baby, however, so when my wife went into labor 3 weeks late he had to be delivered by an emergency Caesarean section. My first word when I saw him wasn’t even a word but a sigh of relief, love, and joy. My early Christmas present had a red, splotchy face from being overdue but it was washed several times over the next few days with happy tears from me, my wife, and several grandparents.
My son was named Joseph John after me and “J.J.” as he was called soon became the most cuddled and photographed child around. He was the first grandchild on both sides of the family and spent his first Christmas going from arms to loving arms as everyone wanted a chance to hold him. I looked forward to a blessed life watching my first born grow up to be a strong and smart man.
That dream, though, wasn’t to turn out the way I thought it would. As my son entered his second year we realized that his language wasn’t developing as it should. He only seemed interested in a few things and would jump up and down over and over to amuse himself. We finally got him tested but were given no answers. We were only told that he wasn’t normal. It was raining that day as my wife and I drove home and finally we pulled the car over, held each other, and added our own tears to the storm.
With the end of that dream came the birth of another. We decided to find out exactly what was “different” about our son do all we could to help him become all he could be. Soon a local Doctor saw what the specialists hadn’t. Our son had Autism. In that day very little was known about Autism or what could be done to treat it. My wife and I read every article and researched every treatment there was to help our son. We put our anger at God aside and asked instead for His love and guidance to help us with our boy. We enrolled J.J. in Special Education at school and worked with him everyday at home. We were blessed to get a loving, kind-hearted, and patient personal-aide for him at school and she became like a second mother to him. It was by her side during another Christmas season that my boy spoke his first sentence about the beautiful Christmas tree at the school.
As we continued to work with my son I noticed something else too; his loving spirit was also working on us. His smile was contagious, his cheer was infectious, and his innocent love was purifying. Over the years I became a better, kinder, more loving, and more spiritual person just by being around him. He taught me so much about love, so much about joy, and so much about embracing life. His language continued to improve and he became beloved by his teachers, fellow students, and especially by the school football and basketball teams where he worked as the equipment manager. His loving presence became a comfort to my days. His gentleness helped me to deal with money struggles and career problems. His sweetness helped me when his younger brother was born with an even more severe form of Autism and I gave up teaching to care for them both.
Now as the best Christmas gift I ever got approaches his 28th Christmas with me I have realized that he is the gift that keeps on giving. Like a ray of sunshine he brightens the day of everyone he meets. Like an earth angel he touches the souls of others with his gentle love. He shares his smile with everyone and calls everyone by name. He goes through his life making this Earth a little more like Heaven. He lives out God’s dream for him which is a far better dream than mine ever was.
I wish all of you a Merry Christmas. May your Christmas and all of your days be full of the best gift there is, the gift my two special sons give me everyday-the gift of LOVE. God bless you always.
humourParticipantThis one is funny 🙂
Cabbage Patch Dolls
-By KayDo you remember “Cabbage Patch” dolls? Years ago, especially at Christmas, those dolls were a big rage. It seemed like everyone wanted one and the stores could not keep them in stock. In order to get a doll people were given a “rain check” they could use when a new supply came in.
Even though Bill, my husband was the General Store Manager of K-Mart I did not get any special treatment. There I stood in a line with my rain check waiting to get a Cabbage Patch doll with everyone else.
It was pretty interesting listening to people whine and complain as they waited in line for their doll.
Finally, I couldn’t stand it anymore so I thought I’d add to the conversation.
With a straight face, shaking my head in disbelief, I spoke up, “You’ll never believe this, but I actually slept with the manager of this store and I’m still standing in line!”
You could have heard a pin drop!
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