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November 30, 2022 at 4:30 pm #411029
Hi Anita – thanks for checking on me. I’m still struggling and I miss him a lot. I’m trying to let go of all my questions about why this happened and I have stopped blaming myself for his choices and mistakes. I am trying to focus on my own healing and signed up for an emotional healing retreat which I think might help me reset.September 14, 2022 at 2:52 pm #406965
I think you’re right that he lied to avoid conflict and confrontation with me. He sent me a rather cold email the other day which said he was sorry for hurting me but he did not admit what he had done. I think that’s probably all I am going to get from him. I have to see him next month at a work function as I mentioned above and I am very stressed about that at the moment. I’m trying to take care of myself and am sad one moment, mad the next and really having a hard time accepting that it’s over and what he did.September 11, 2022 at 9:36 am #406872
I’ve decided that knowing all the details won’t help me now. I have enough information. He lied and he cheated so the details would only make things worse for me. He emailed me yesterday which I had hoped would help but it did not. I don’t understand why this happened and he really won’t talk about it with me. He can’t face me. I know I need to let go of the idea that I will ever understand what happened and start to move on with my life. But I’m finding that hard. I’m trying to take care of myself and see my friends but he is often in my thoughts. I have to see him in person next month at a work conference and I am completely dreading that and hope I am in a better place by then.
TriciaSeptember 8, 2022 at 2:00 pm #406739
Hi Anita – thanks for checking in on me. I’m struggling a bit to accept what’s happened. My relationship is over and the man I thought I knew isn’t the same person to me now. I want him to explain this all to me but I know I need to be careful what I ask for because knowing the whole story might not help. He’s texted a few times and I am trying not to contact him as it’s just too hard.August 29, 2022 at 6:54 pm #406323
It’s official – I found out today that he’s been seeing someone else since early May. Yet he carried on visits / intimacy with me and we traveled together at least twice since then and he stayed with me two weeks ago. He’s been cheating on my and his new woman. I didn’t see this coming and now I know why he needs space.August 29, 2022 at 4:40 am #406297
I asked him if he’d been with someone else and he said no. The pictures look cozy but doesn’t mean he cheated. But I can’t help thinking that he did. It would explain a lot of his behavior. My partner has always been kind and loving too me up until recent months when he was distant and pulling away. I think I have to end this now. He originally asked for some space and said he wanted to work on things but I think he needs to work on himself. I need to move on but I’m so sad and shocked.August 28, 2022 at 6:34 pm #406282
Thanks for your perspective. I’ve tried to be supportive while he is going through challenges by encouraging him to take care of himself, take a break and have some fun and make sure he isn’t being hard on himself. I think that I have misread this whole situation (see above post) and the emotional distance between us is because he is seeing someone else. I’ve devastated that this is how my relationship is ending.August 28, 2022 at 6:30 pm #406281
I think another woman is involved. I saw a couple of photos on Facebook from back in May (when we started having some trouble in our relationship). He looks cozy with this woman and there’s a few more from the birthday party with the same woman. So I don’t understand why he asked me for space if he’s seeing someone else. I tried to ask him about it and he shut down. So I don’t know what to do now.August 28, 2022 at 3:25 pm #406276
Thank you Anita. I don’t think he wanted me to visit the weekend of his birthday. At this point, I think my trust is definitely dented. I am concerned about him and want to provide support but I think he needs to do some work on his own. I don’t think he’s afraid of me and I hope I haven’t created that situation. I think he’s afraid of facing the truth. The distance makes our relationship challenging at times and maybe he was afraid to tell me it’s just too hard. I have more questions than answers.August 28, 2022 at 2:06 pm #406271
I think he does have a hard time communicating that he needs space. This has been a challenge for him the past few months it seems.August 28, 2022 at 2:05 pm #406270
I don’t quite understand your question exactly. I booked a trip to see him for his birthday and he told me he was going away for the weekend with his friends. That was no big deal at all. I just adjusted my trip to see him when he got back. He said he was in Spain with his friends and he was really at home. But he texted me flight details and was telling me all about his trip while he was away. So he created this fake trip so he could have his birthday with his friends. This is the part I don’t get. Why not just say that to begin with? Hope that clears up why I’m confused.