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Yes you are right one of them has started reaching out to me again after giving them space and i’ve left the others alone for now just so everyone can have time to process what happened since it is still a fresh wound for us all.
Dear Rose of Yellow:
Thank you for this advice and taking the time to respond to my blog post it means a lot and you are most definitely right about not drinking because it can damage and cause long life long issues for me and to avoid that i’ll try and not make any more reckless decisions like this.
I understand where you’re coming from when you say you don’t want to be a hypocrite and then turn away from him after agreeing that it was bad of his friends to not check up on him.
However, if he is actually a true friend he should be able to understand the fact that you have boundaries with friendships and need personal space sometimes which isn’t a bad thing.
Everyone is different and deals with things differently some people like over sharing like your new friend, but some people don’t like too like you do.
That doesn’t make you selfish or a bad friend he needs to respect you because not everyone is the same and everyone has boundaries. He needs to understand that him talking and contacting you too much is overwhelming for you because you are different in your own way and prefer to talk with a friend once in awhile not daily.
My advice is being this upto him and straight up say it don’t hesitate i get he might be going through a lot but that isn’t your fault and if you keep things the way they are right now. It will most likely impact your mental health but in a negative away which isn’t good for you at all.
And there’s nothing wrong with telling a friend you need space and need to take a break sometimes because we are all human after all not robots.
If he takes what you’re saying negatively that’s on him but if he doesn’t that’s good but don’t let this situation linger on for too much longer.
i feel a bit better from the advice you two have given me tika and anita
and i have vowed to not make this type of mistake ever again because the outcome could’ve been much worse thankfully it wasn’t but it still could have been
I haven’t reached out much to two of my friends that were apart of the incident i’ve only talked with my friend who had the boyfriend and the one that kept puking i haven’t spoken much with the other two
I’ve tried speaking with one but only received dry responses and havent talked since I am worried that i am going to lose my friends that were involved and they are very important to me
I don’t know what to do or feel about that the whole situation overall i feel a bit less tense and worried about it and i’m slowly starting to move past while remembering my mistakes and learning my lesson
thank you for the advice anita it was very very helpful,