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  • in reply to: Feelings for another, should I tell her? #85447
    James Anthony
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    I have spent a lot of time over the last few days thinking about what I ‘want’, and what is ‘right’.

    My wife and I were intimate together for the first time last night, while it was fine, good even, I felt it hard to feel ‘connected’ to her – and I feel guilty about that as she now seems happier.

    I am wondering whether I am better by myself, I am starting to ‘want’ to spend time looking at myself, I am feeling an incredible draw to being solitary, my feelings for my ex-workmate are still there, but do not seem as important now, not now that I am faced with this longing to be by myself and to try to ‘perfect’ myself.

    I am thinking of speaking with my wife within the month and talking to her about going our separate ways.

    in reply to: Feelings for another, should I tell her? #85395
    James Anthony
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    I’m not getting into a new relationship, I was discussing my feelings for someone else. I wouldn’t do anything untoward my wife as she’s a better person than that and doesn’t deserve it.

    I never told this other woman about my feelings in the end out of respect for my wife and has since then told my wife about my feelings of wanting to be alone and maybe not loving her as much as she loves me, understandably, she’s hurt but is ‘glad’ I told her.

    We are looking at our relationship as it is and are going to try to make things better.

    in reply to: Feelings for another, should I tell her? #85162
    James Anthony
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    Excellent post, thank you.

    Believe me when I say that I don’t take these things lightly, I look into every aspect of my thoughts and as to why I feel them (after years of ON/Off meditation) I never take thoughts on ‘face value’.

    I’m using this forum more for other opinions/voice my opinions/thoughts – rather than advice (not that it isn’t appreciated, rather, you’re a voice at the end if a keyboard…) ((No offence))

    in reply to: Feelings for another, should I tell her? #85134
    James Anthony
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    I didn’t have the best childhood parent wise so I’m very aware of what it can do to a child it the home isn’t a loving one.

    in reply to: Feelings for another, should I tell her? #85132
    James Anthony
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    I don’t think either of us would throw a baby into the mix, we aren’t at that point and it wouldn’t be fair on the child.

    in reply to: Feelings for another, should I tell her? #85131
    James Anthony
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    Thanks for the advice.

    I certainly have a lot to think about and don’t want to fall into the trap of ‘the grass is always greener on the other side.’

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