Hi Adam,
When what we want in our minds and what is happening in reality are not aligned we are in turmoil. Being in a similar situation I can relate to your situation. From my experience all I can say is no contact with ex and pure time helped. It’s a cliche but time does heal. It’s a SLOW process but keep busy, do things you enjoy and day by day you’ll realise you didn’t think about your ex for the past hr, then a couple of hours and eventually the whole day, weeks etc 🙂 you won’t really know what did it for you but eventually the ebb and flow of the deep pain and firey anger will slow and stop. At the end of the day love is all there is. Love yourself enough not to put your mind, body and soul through all the trauma that negative emotions bring. We have very little to no control over our lives, things will happen some of what we want and some what we don’t want, if you expect this in life when things unexpected occur in your life (and they most certainly will) accept them as they are, don’t fight it, don’t change it just go with the flow. I’m not saying turn into a door mat, but you know the saying change what you can, accept what you can’t change and let it go. Every time you think of your ex replace it with a positive thought or image straight away, this really helped me, I am visual so beaches, sunsets, sound of the ocean helped straight away to stop the negative emotions taking hold of me and instead filled me with peace and acceptance eventually.

Hope you find peace in your heart and know that you are a special person as you are.

Peace xx Aysha

Write a letter? You seem to be good with words maybe write how you feel, as you write it and see it in black and white things may become clearer to you with what or how you want to say? Seems like something is holding you back though. No relationship is a relationship without having two participants in it, if you don’t want to be in it do not participate. He maybe a nice guy but not the one for you maybe? Hope you get clarity soon 🙂 xx

Hi Romy. Deeply sorry to hear about your experience. I have had my heart broken as well, still working on it 🙂 but I’ll share with you one of the things that helped me when I could just not get past forgiving my ex for the pain he caused me and for the pain I caused to my self! Google Hoʻoponopono. It is basically a healing meditation that you can direct at this guy and then yourself and forgive him and yourself. You will find in most cases you will be disappointed in holding out for someone else to apologise and make you feel better, you have to forgive him and your part in it and then just let it go. The situation is what it is now. We only have a short while in this world, out your energy into what matters most and that is YOU. No one else but YOU. The greatest lesson I have learned these last few months is that never rely on an external source to make you happy because as quickly as that comes it can go also. Be happy from within yourself because you will never let yourself down. And only you know what will make you happy. Sending you love, light and peace. Xx Aysha

Hi Sandra. Deeply sorry to hear your story. One thing that shouts out to me is that you must be incredibly strong to go through all that and still love. So let that be a strength of your character and not something you should be ashamed or think you are a bad person. I have gone through some troubled experiences in the last 6 months and I too felt like this life is so unjust. All I can say to you is that Yoga, meditation and reiki attunements has helped me greatly to gain control of my inner being and accept that I cannot control. Others nor this world around me even if what I want for them is with good intentions and out of love. Focus all that love you have for the other person and challenge it inside of you towards yourself. U deserve your own love first, do not give it out to others until you channel it to yourself first. This will protect you and allow you channel out a healthy love. And when you channel that healthy love out events and people will form around you who will promote those feelings further. Here and there you will get tested but it will be no where near as painful as before because you have that love surrounding your heart and protecting yourself. You don’t need anyone to do it for you and nor can anyone bear that responsibility but ourselves. Sending you love and courage to live in the present moment, see the beauty in simplicity and open your heart truly to yourself. Xx Aysha