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July 3, 2016 at 9:15 am #108774
Stay positive : ) I’m sure you have a beautiful smile and you sound level headed to me. Don’t stress the living with your parents thing, lots of people do it, for different reasons. It doesn’t mean your poor or not financially stable, I am a music journalist ( I’m upper middle class) and I interviewed Tinashe once ,I toured with her actually – nice girl, she is an R&B sensation, and she lives with her parents. You would think a woman of her caliber wouldn’t, but she said that she does because she travels so much, there is no need for a house.I can sympathize- as I travel a lot too for work, I think at the time she was touring and opened for Nicki Minaj, and I was with her entourage, so I was touring with them too, I had to take an extended leave from work, because I work as a teacher too, but it was a once and a lifetime opportunity. She was preparing to open for Iggy Azalea, but Iggy canceled her tour. Here’s the link, to help you know that you aren’t alone. Most ambitious people do that. Especially if you want to teach abroad, those are lofty ambitions. Chase your dreams.Here’s the link.
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West also lived with Kris Jenner for a while ( her mom), and both are millionaires.Here’s the link
I hope this helps you feel better. As you aren’t alone. I can sympathize too. : ) Chase your dreams and have a blessed Sunday! : )July 3, 2016 at 8:55 am #108769
Well only advice I can offer. Love yourself, forgive yourself, and respect yourself. The problem is you’ve been trained to use twentieth century logic, in twenty-first-century situations. lol. Not everything in dating nowadays is cut and dry or easy to understand etc, there are relationships, marriages, situationships, friends with benefits, misunderstandings, and friendships.
Be cool. Be confident. Be you. Be elegant and graceful. Be an adult. Be patient. Be honest. Don’t stoop down to any degrading levels, with sharp words or nasty attitudes. Be a lady at all times. Instinctively, you know what situations are likely to take you from classy to trashy. Don’t be anything less than the queen you are. Be a dignified woman. Think of ways to restore your peace of mind.Remember to stay positive no matter what. Hope this helps : )July 3, 2016 at 8:19 am #108765
P.S. virtual hug+July 3, 2016 at 7:57 am #108762
Stay positive regardless. Try your hardest to be optimistic. Maintain a level head and don’t do anything permanent on temporary feelings. Be nice to people regardless of how you are feeling. Being nice is not about running around manically smiling and doing everyone’s bidding. It’s not about being phony – it’s valuing niceness in yourself and in others- the same way you respect intelligence, beauty, or talent.
Most of us don’t mean to be depressed. And ultimately no one ” gets it”. It’s hard when your depressed because you can’t see yourself the way others do ( even if your awesome- we tend to compare the worst of ourselves to the best of someone else). So do an inventory of all the people in your life. ask yourself what kind of character do you play in their movie? Are you a loving, doting person? Are you supportive to those around you? Love will heal depression. The more you give love the better you’ll feel. Our capacity for love isn’t finite, either.
Then you have to balance your academic intelligence with your emotional and social intelligence.This year especially, I’ve learned that my social intelligence will have a greater impact than my knowledge of shakespearean sonnets or mathematical algorithms. So working on my relationships have been the goal. I would consider myself more cerebral; than emotional, so I have a hard time showing that side of myself. Or become perplexed, when someone else is emotional, because I have a hard time understanding there point of view, I intellectualize everything- it makes me uncomfortable.
For one day, try to keep the focus away from yourself (to stop from being depressed). When you’re tempted to tell a story, ask a question instead and listen to other people’s problems for like a whole day and don’t share yours. I swear afterwards you feel so much better, It makes it much easier to forget about your own problems, because there is always someone out there that is living worse than you. I hope this helps. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Remember that, someone out there cares about you, I do.July 2, 2016 at 12:56 pm #108743
Thank you!!! lol… I been trying figure that out like forever… I can be spacey sometimes.lolJune 27, 2016 at 5:36 am #108334
I can relate sort of, I suppose. ( cyber hug- I may not respond to this post-don’t take offense to it though, I hate sharing on forums,especially this one because once you post, you can’t delete, so you have to be careful of what you say, how you word things,etc) but it wasn’t sexual or anything like that and I didn’t see him everyday.
He is like a father to me though, I respect him so much more than that, I’ve always held him in high regard, for years. It’s hard to explain, most people wouldn’t understand it, I wouldn’t even attempt to explain to others. However, I had been down for the past weeks because I felt like I disappointed him. My mentality is somewhat of an idealist- so it’s harder on me,than it would be for most people. So mine happened like a month or two ago. I couldn’t make sense of it, so I kind of disappear for a while on and off because I need to take care of myself sometimes. For personal reasons ( obviously).
I stopped talking to everybody basically. I got inside my head for a while. I don’t know his thoughts.
I was an editor for a magazine in New York ( intern), I stopped recently, but I do television too,now, hosting or preparing for it.
I hadn’t seen him in years, so, as far as I know he remembers me as an editor at a magazine,, I hope so. we haven’t talked in years. The nature of his work makes it difficult to talk to him, I wouldn’t know where to begin because he works in the industry , so it’s not like I can just walk up to him and start talking to him, or post to his fan page, because he gets millions of posts, I doubt he reads them or would notice, he’s a busy person…..I want him to be proud, at times I beat myself up about it, I care about what he thinks. Other people don’t understand that- they don’t get that, so my process is harder than most, because everyone speaks for me, lol. So I went away because I needed to be alone to process everything ( I do that sometimes). I shut my phone off, face book, everything.
I don’t feel duped though. Like, I don’t know how to feel, if anything– or like… from my perspective, I don’t know anything-which makes it harder to process- if that makes sense.
Not sure though, only advice I can offer you, is you aren’t alone. It’s weird, I still sympathize as I know the feeling. Processing will take a while, and it’s okay to process. I hope this makes you feel better hearing my story, and if you feel alone, you aren’t.