Tiny Wisdom: On Self Love

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha

They say that love is a verb, and that’s not only true for our friends and family. If we want to be strong, confident people who can benefit others and the world, we need to make time to love ourselves in action.

We need to do the things that we know nourish our hearts and spirits, whether it’s yoga, meditation, or walking on the beach. Even if we’re overwhelmed—especially if we’re overwhelmed—we need to prioritize taking care of minds and bodies.

We need to get out and engage with people, allowing ourselves to feel a sense of connection and inclusion. Even if we’re busy—especially if we’re busy—we need to prioritize genuine connection.

And we need to take time to be alone with ourselves, so we can learn to be strong, independent, and centered, regardless of who’s there for support. Even if lots of other people depend on us—especially if lots of other people depend on us—we need to prioritize being with ourselves.

We have so much potential to make a difference in the world—to share our passions, talents, and love. But we can only give to others if we’re able to first give to ourselves.

It doesn’t need to be anything huge. It can just be 15 minutes for deep breathing in the afternoon, or a few kind words internally before a big meeting or event.

What matters is that we recognize loving ourselves takes effort, and then we make that effort consistently, at least a little every day. Just like we’d be accountable in the relationships we value, we need and deserve to be accountable to ourselves.

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About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha. She started the site after struggling with depression, bulimia, c-PTSD, and toxic shame so she could recycle her former pain into something useful and inspire others do the same. She recently created the Breaking Barriers to Self-Care eCourse to help people overcome internal blocks to meeting their needs—so they can feel their best, be their best, and live their best possible life. If you’re ready to start thriving instead of merely surviving, you can learn more and get instant access here.

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