Children need to feel safe. Children need to see their parents calm so to be calm themselves. Children need to see their parents content so to be  content themselves.

And when this is not the reality of the child, the child is anxious and angry and that anxiety and anger lasts a lifetime.

 I see how scared you are, I see how angry you are. I know you feel badly, I know you don’t feel okay. And I know why you don’t feel okay, it is understandable.

Fun times were fueled by life force, and just so happened, NOT by any means because my mom had good back then, or that life was indeed good back then, that I was lucky or safe back then.

Interesting point, and I think that is so key.  So key, and perhaps we have talked about this many times before, but only today we will say this is the work.

Go back, and see reality not nostalgia.  See the poor, unsafe, scared, hurt child that was indeed – unlucky.

I will start there.  Reach that child.  I will…In my next post I will write some stream of consciousness