In terms of relationship arguments and bringing things to surface. we live in a society now where the dating advice tells us, if the relationship has arguing or brings out certain things its all bad. but in all honesty, if someone has trauma, that’s got to come out some how. as long as when its coming up and out they are actively working to heal and remedy it- the relationship could work out. It’s necessary sometimes. People bring lessons. And soulmates should push us to grow. sometimes it takes a soulmate to inspire us to get help, because we sometimes dont help ourselves because we dont love ourselves enough. and then a soulmate comes around and makes us feel seen and loved, and then we start loving ourselves enough to want to get better. Its crap in my opinion when someone says we can not love until we love ourselves. It’s psychologically proven that having other people love us and love us right, helps us learn how to love back and love ourselves.