Dear Anita,

I posted the above add on I think simultaneously when you replied, so I just read your reply.

The injustice in your life is that you were born to her and you were stuck with her as a child and you didn’t choose to be born to her and be stuck with her for what felt like eternity, a misery that got formed into you with no choosing on your part

Yes, so going no contact – is not to be born again.  It is to say I was born unlucky, and now is my chance to not be lucky, but to have a chance to accept my reality – so that it is not my reality forever, nor that of my future life/children/marriage/ etc.