Dear Anita,

1) I am pretty sure it is true because M has a history of outbursts.

She had her daughter say once “daddy is hurting me” so that they could go to court and she could have a case against her husband, but the changed her whole mind and was perfectly fine.  I know this because my in laws were involved as they are the eldest in the family and are the source of support for everyone.  So she is a loose cannon and not mentally stable.  She also has history of running out of the house even when taking care of her own children, and cursing and acting inappropriate.

2) I think I do have anger and resentment at my husband at not standing up to S (or Problem cousin)

BUT we have talked about it in detail: and the conclusion was, S is entirely delusional – and saying anything to her will go on deaf ears.  She is not someone that has any awareness of how she comes off to others.  We both decided it will be useless.

BUT I think I wasn’t exactly feeling settled with it since then…and of course severely triggered when the thought of both of them being in front of me came up, not because I HAVE to be at this event, but more liek what the hell is wrong with these 2, getting off talking crap about me