Dear Anita,

Thank you for your last post.  I especially like the portion of adopting another image for myself.

Since we last spoke, my husband and I have had many many follow up talks and research, and back and forth, etc etc -about the jobs.

We are almost certainly leaning towards SD.  For all of the reasons you mentioned, plus the fact that when we were there in person – the team we had dinner with that evening were authentically kind, patient, and family – oriented.

I also interviewed for a position out in the area.  I am waiting to hear back about it.  They will still interview a few candidates and make a decision in December.

Starting last week I was very anxious about this.  Worrying what if I don’t get the job – it is a great job.  Worrying how I can make myself an even better candidate to them.

And then I allowed myself to let it go.  They will choose who they choose.  I know I am a great candidate, and there may be many other excellent candidates.  They will choose the best person for the position they deem.   They may have an internal candidate they want – they may not.  I can not stress over it.

If my husband does take the SD job, he does have a concern of myself also having a job that I feel fulfilled in.  I have reassured him that regardless of my opportunity or not – he should take it for the aforementioned reasons – IF those are what we are heading towards.

I can work per diem or part time until I find something good, sometimes it takes knowing the market a little after moving physically as well.

I am okay with this option as I no longer feel that I have to “do it all” and excel in everything.  Perhaps my career will take a back seat for a bit, or perhaps for a long time.  Perhaps it might be the best thing for me – maybe not.

But it will all work out somehow.

I will keep you posted on any further advancements.

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How are you and how was your weekend?

• This reply was modified 5 years ago by Cali Chica.