Dear Anita,

how can I calm myself here and now.

Well if I ask myself that now…

I can focus on what you so eloquently wrote above – all the reasons SD is better.

How perfectly put – all excellent reasons that I think of daily.

I can tell myself – the focus is to be grateful for all of these reasons and focus more on big picture – I can tell myself all I want – but the way our brains are, as you wrote above – wired with distress in mind!

Therefore I will do something different. I used to focus so much on what I could control, thinking I had much more control than I really did.

This time – perhaps I focus on someone that is not me – my husband. All ducks align to be a better opportunity for him. So why don’t we go with that. How positive that is!

for me – it will work out. Somehow someway it always does. I have the credentials and the spirit – if not this, that will work, if not that – the other.

I mean to say – I was so preoccupied with me before! Not in a selfish way but in an Ursula way.

“How can I do more. How can I get this. How can I get that. What is missing. What can I do better…. ?????”

Instead I can focus on the beautiful team my husband and I have built- and how this next step for us is by all means welcomed and a great change waiting to happen!