@Sammy1

You don’t know how grateful I am for your time. Thank you. I really appreciate you @Rhaenys and @Jay2023 responding.

I know I messed up. To address your points I didn’t text her that evening because truth is I was being stubborn and butthurt and only thinking about how I felt. I also honestly didn’t reflect on the gravity of the situation that transpired and naively believed it would blow over. But now I see how vulnerable she must have felt and I feel awful.

The next morning again you are right due to my stupidity and lack of reflection, I thought it would be fine, normally when we butt heads over minor things we laugh it off,and our close friend once commented we were like Hopper and Joyce from Stranger Things and just need to bang already to release all our sexual tension so its been our running joke since. So I thought that would work and the fact when we are away or in different cities we have that natural chemistry. Again didn’t realise I had hurt her so deeply so this would have added to the insensitivity of the evening before.

Your woman’s perspective sounds like exactly what’s happening. I can’t think of anything other than the argument and wedding stress but then again with the wedding stress have I really been listening or as attentive as I could have been. Like you said as a man we walk around oblivious until shit hits the fan.

I know how much she loves me, I would never question that but I also know too well that love on its own is never enough. What if she’s doubting the whole relationship because of my immaturity? What if I can’t make her as happy as she makes me?

I will follow yours and @Jay2023 advice and not harass her. I’ll do my best to wait patiently, I don’t want to accumulate more reasons for her to be upset or unsure. I want to demonstrate I respect her needs. Guys do you think I should contact her friends to make sure she’s OK or will she feel disrespected that I’ve gone behind her back or hinted all is not well to her friends? She deals with everything herself so will I be causing more problems or helping?
When I see her i intend on holding her tighter than you can imagine. I don’t mind space between us when we are good we are both independent but this is torture. Torture knowing she’s been crying and I couldn’t comfort her, torture knowing she may be rethinking the whole wedding that I’ve been moaning about. I’m such a fool!