Dear TeaK,

I apologize for not being able to respond earlier. I’ve been struggling with my health. I’m struggling with heart palpitations and still am. You make a lot of sense. While reading your post, I got the “sense” of relief and your reasoning enlightened me. But, seconds later, the negative thoughts and guilt and all the self-hate came back again. I know I’m not responsible for my mother’s mishaps, but I still feel guilty and responsible for ruining her life. I just want to see her happy, and like everybody else, she deserves to be happy. I know it’s all in my head, and I have to dismiss the negative thoughts, but I don’t know how to do it-

If you have some techniques or mental training please let me know. I’ll do anything, I want to enjoy and be happy for every minute, every second, and every moment I have left with her. The time I have with her is very important to me. I can’t change the past, but I can at least make the present more joyful and pleasant.