Dear blue:

I re-read your posts, and what I understand is that you live on the country side, part of a very conservative society. You are 38, unmarried, not in a relationship, no longer a virgin (which is an issue in a conservative society), and you would consider becoming a single (unmarried) mother, but that is not acceptable in a conservative society.

Your parents know that you have been a good daughter for decades, dedicated to them and to your siblings, don’t they? If you haven’t talked to them about the topic yet, bring it up: let them know that you want to be a single mother because you are getting older and no marriage possibility is in sight for you. Perhaps they can make an exception for you and support you in becoming a single mother, as well as gather the larger society to support you as a single mother. Make sure that if you go that route, that there is no chance (!!!) that your child will be mistreated because he/ she was born outside of marriage, and that your family and society support you.

You might find something useful in reading Tips on achieving pregnancy at age 38, in hello motherhood. com (no spaces). It reads there that the chance of a woman at 30 year old getting pregnant is about 20% every month, while for a 40 year old woman, the chance is about 5%, but because the chances increase in certain days of the month, the chances are greater on those days.

anita

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